Advice on recovering from multiple pet deaths?

This summer and fall have been rough on my family, myself especially. While working through a spay and neuter program for our local feral cats, we inadvertently became involved in kitten rescue to help the ones abandoned by their parents or sick. As most people who've raised young kittens knows, that's a pretty heartbreaking business. We lost half of the 8 total we took in. In the midst of all this early this summer, I also lost the last two of my old-girl Betta fish. A couple months ago, my one rabbit had a serious urinary tract infection. Being late on a Sunday, I took her to the emergency vet. They kept her in the back room too long while handling other serious cases brought in, and she died of a stress heart attack. Now just last week, I lost my second bunny to reasons unknown. She stopped eating last Thursday evening and, despite our efforts to help her, passed away overnight.

At this point, I'm debating whether or not I've sunken into literal depression. I feel like I'm some sort of horrible bad luck. So far as rabbits go, we still have 4 in the house, but they are my mother's and are bonded to and cared for by her. While I really miss having my bunnies (letting them out to run around was my stress relief after work) and have a brand-new cage I was all excited about when I finished it, I'm now terrified to get any new pets.

I know that there are probably people on here with somewhat similar experiences (particularly if anyone's raised livestock like sheep/goats and had to care for a round of babies that fell ill or something). What the heck do you do to get over it? I've debated volunteering at my local SPCA with their buns and such, but animals in shelters aren't always in the best condition just because of the situations they come out of. I think knowing some of the animals there will pass away or have to be put down would actually make me worse, especially because I might superstitiously blame myself if it was an animal I was helping with. I also would only be able to go Friday evenings or maybe Saturdays.

And please nothing about psychologists or anything like that! Besides the fact that I don't want something like that in general (I'm more of an animal-person than a person-person), I don't have the money for something like that. While I'm surviving just fine and can pay for myself and normal vet bills, I've lost a lot of money this year to veterinarians, a car accident, horse boarding suddenly hiking up costs, and other factors.

ABRIDGED VERSION: I've lost a lot of pets since June and am a wreck about it. Seeking advice on ways to slowly recover from the emotional trauma

?2010-10-28T19:14:20Z

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I do ferret rescue. I have had to put down soooo many of them and it is heartbreaking every time. I cry for the fact that most of them only had a short time here in a good home . Mostly because they were passed from home to home and before they got here, had at least 5-6 home s that we know about. These are animals who bond so strongly with their humans that they have been know to die when they loose their humans or a buddy ferret.
I told my hubby that I was not sure if we should keep taking them in because it is so emotionally hard.
He had a strange but so true comment. He said that eventually they are all going to die whether they are with us or with someone else and that at least we knew that they had a good happy home. Believe it or not this helped. It is still hard to do and raw at first, but then you remember that they are no longer in pain aanyou canremplace those feeling with the fun things that you remember about them. It gets easier every day. And there is always another one that needs you.....

Jessica2010-10-29T01:48:25Z

Im so sorry....I know how you feel...a little. We just had a litter of baby bunnies and 3 of them died as i was holding them. It is tough....even tougher when there family pets. Honestly the best way I have found to get over the loss of a pet is to get another one, sometimes it helps fill the void you are feeling. Not replacing them but stuffing that hole in your heart with something else to love. You can only think that you gave them the best life possible and they were happy. I found that alot of the time when someone looses a pet or family member, they feel sad and torn apart because they keep thinking that their passed loved one misses them, or that they still need to be taken care of. They are in good hands and left our world to make room for new ones to love.

hope this helps a little

Anonymous2010-10-29T01:43:32Z

the second bunny you lost was probally becasue of heart break if those 2 were good friends then for sure thats what happened with my hamsters

you will get over them soon maybe quit the saving kittens and stuff i know that would be hard to do but if you dont want to be tramatizied oyu might have to

?2010-10-29T09:15:36Z

i have some things that will help you but i am about to go to sleep and i am too tired to write it down now. i PROMISE i will write you when i get up in the morning. so dont give a best answer yet cuz i have some stuff that will make you feel better