children left behind after suicide of their father?
My god son is going through a lot. Last year his dad committed suicide after many years deployed. His mom is a widow, sick with Lupus and he was not going to school. She is too ill to get them up in the morning. His absences became a problem, but Since I started driving him everyday, he is finally caught up in all of the days he has missed, however he is still being punished for not being at school regularty from before awhich is out of his control. His mom doesnt wake him up because she is very sick. i am now taking him to school but the teachers are punishing him for homework that is past due. He needs to get up to speed witht the other students before he can be held to the same standards as the other students. I want the teachers to recognize his unusual situationa and come up with a solution on how to get him to want to come to school every day without fear of being punished. He has no behavioural problems ad I wish the teachers would give him the opportunity to catch up before immediately punishing him for things he cant control. How should I handle this touchy situation?
Heidi2010-11-12T21:23:11Z
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I would speak with the school counselors. You really cant talk with all his teachers and get them all to understand the situation, but if the counselor knows, they can often address the situation in the best manner. That is really part of their job. They arent just there to listen to kids who want to discuss problems, but to also help those who are actively trying to cope with problems. Often the counselors are able to help speed along the time it takes for him to catch up as well as explain the needs of the child to the teachers in a way that has more weight than just a concerned parent/guardian/caretaker is able to do. Best of luck!
Make sure that all his teachers and counselors knows what has happen and what he is still going through with his mom. Then if they don't stop punishing him for back homework go over their head to the principle. Now if going through line of commands don't work then go to the school board.
If the staff at the school has any heart they'll work with this child and help him out! Hope all works out for this young man!!
Ask to have a meeting with the principal or guidance counselor at the boys school. Explain what happened. Also, if you have the time, do whatever you can in order to help him catch up. You can also approach the military family support groups in your area to help the mother and son adjust to thier new life. I would also make sure that the mother herself is not suffering from depression and her symptoms are soley those of lupus. Good luck and bless you for stepping in when you were needed.
You need to ask the principal to meet your godson's mother at her house. Once he/she understands, then he and the teachers can come up with some solutions that don't involve punishing the child for things outside of his control.
Also, ask the mother if you can take him to a counselor tor therapist.
Approach the teachers first. Then if no satisfaction go to the principal. Keep moving up the ladder until someone understands or listens. There are all sorts of unique circumstances that effect children and their school work. Keep stressing to your god son how important his education is. He also might need counseling to get through this. Then he can keep his mind on school work and not worry about mom and about losing dad.