I'm a sophomore in high school and have never had a girlfriend, I have average grades because academically I suck this year, I'm really shy and don't talk alot (I sometimes go whole 45 minute class periods without speaking), I only really have one friend, during lunch I go to the library everyday to do work but my grades are still mediocre and when I finish I usually sit on a bench by myself feeling pathetic and thinking about how better the world would be without me. And if that hasn't convinced you that I would should be euathanized just for being a loser and a waste of space I'll share something else with you; I spend more time looking at porn than I do talking to girls. Actually I hardly ever talk to them unless they talk to me which of course isn't often . And I'm also ugly but I won't post a picture because I don't want anyone turning into stone. Basically I'm an invisible loser that should be executed.
?2010-12-24T02:30:15Z
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dude seriously... you're not a loser... just give it some time... when i was in elementary and middle school... i was hated on so much that no one would even talk to me.. i thought i was hideous and that no one would ever like me... to the point where i just wanted to kill myself...but instead i stuck to my guns and kept it real... years later... the people that picked on me came and apologized to me because they saw how cool i really was and how stupid they were when they were younger... they then became my friends because they grew up and realized that none of the popular bullshit really matters out in the real world... ive seen jocks that i went to school with, a couple of years out of highschool with **** jobs being a normal person . they lost all the attention they used to have because they realized that once they left highschool... all the friends they thought were friends were just fake. no one really likes fake people... kinda like the pretty girl who can never keep her boyfriend for more than a week... its because on the outside they may be pretty but on the inside they are ugly people. narcissism is a real turn off too... just realize that these kinds of people are not worth your time... you my friend are better than that. try being a bit more social...small talk works if you're shy. say hi to someone.. if they cant say hi back then its not worth your time...if they do happen to say hi... try to initiate a conversation... you just may make a friend.. if so work from there...oh and about the ladies... dont be so shy... confidence is a turn on.. i dont know how many butt ugly guys ive met who pull chics just cus they have confidence. women like to be wooed with words. if you are intelligent, which it sounds like you are, try having an intelligent conversation. women love intelligence... i know i do. if this doesnt work... dont give up... or think of yourself as a loser...im more than positive you will find someone... oh and as for the porn thing... no its not weird... lots of people watch porn.. i know i watch it religiously and i dont believe it makes me a weirdo at all... you're not a perv... just a guy... truuust me... every guy watches porn. and as for the whole ugly thing... that is sooo bullshit... how do i know if you're even ugly??? you wouldnt let me see a pic and judge for myself... for all i know... you might be really cute and not know it because people dont talk to you cuz you're anti-social. remember... you're invisible because you want to be... you have to be the one to step ahead and put yourself out there.... and if all else fails... i promise i'll be your friend. after all i know how you feel having been in that situation once before. if you want you can email me... just dont think im a wierdo or anything cuz im alot older than you. i promise im not a pedophile. just a girl who knows how you feel. besides... im old enough to buy beer. we can drink!!!! yay! liquid courage! :D itll probably help you losen up. lol j/k. but really ill be your friend. here is my email. red_gummy_bear88@yahoo.com i love making new friends. :D
Checked your profile. No info. You don't really tell us very much about yourself, so it's hard to answer your question in any meaningful way. Don't know what you mean by perverted? Do you tell sick jokes, or what? Are you physically unattractive? Obese? Come on too strong? The one positive thing I can read into your question, is that you apparently have some degree of humility, not obsequious, or servile, but genuinely humble. Humility in being self effacing, being able to look at yourself in the mirror and be honest about what you see, is an admirable personality trait. That's a plus. Whether or not you're a looser, is up to you to decide. Take heart, you don't sound so terrible to me. Wotan
If you keep thinking you're a loser than might as well be.
But no, you're not. You just need to be more confident. Thinking down on yourself so much will not help at all. First off, it's okay to be shy. Society somewhat "shuns" (for lack of better words) introverts as the outgoing people are the ones in the spotlight. There are just as many introverts as extroverts, but you only really notice the extroverts as they're out there. If you want to be more outgoing, just don't care about what people think. If they judge you, they aren't worth your time, honestly.
If you really don't like your looks, try to improve them. Acne medication, haircut, contact lenses, etc. Honestly, you probably look fine how you are. Everyone's different, and someone will be attracted to you.
Also, it gets better when you're older and out of that awkward stage in life. I'm a senior in high school and I've gotten better over my high school years. I've known quite a few people who were shy in high school but broke out of their shell afterwards. You just gotta wait. :] Trust me, you're not a waste of space.
Well you deffinitley need to get a hobbie or join some sorta club to make some new friends, thats very important. As for the world being better without you... thats nonesense. You need to talk somebody a little closer to home so that they can help you properly. The porn thing is normal. I suggest you take a little more interest in your looks/appearence if it bothers you and then make every attemp to make new friends. I think that would help tremendously with your self confidence.
u probably are a loser. and thats ok. i was kinda the same, but not as extreme. im 23 now and i have opened up aloooooot since then. back in hs i never knew what to say to ppl, hardly talked. now i have gained so much confidence and can talk to anyone. u will outgrow and mature alot as u get older. high school is just a small part of your life.