What do I do about a military wedding date?
My wife and I dated for over 5 years when I joined the Air Force. During BMT I asked to her marry me in Aug 2011. But then I found out she wouldn't be able to PCS with me after tech school unless we were already married. We also couldn't afford the wedding without the extra BAH. (I was already helping her back home with the rent from my lowly E1 pay). So we got married over exodus so we could afford to have a ceremony in the spring after I graduate and so all the paperwork would be done when we PCS.
At the wedding should we tell people that we got married back in December without them. We have only told her mom and sister. None of my family knows. Or should we just keep that to ourselves?
Do we put both dates on the cards or just one? Which date do we put on stuff? I don't want to confuse my guests or lie to them. Or make the feel like they are coming to a 'fake' wedding.
Do any military couple have advice? Do any civilians have any input? Thank you for your time.
Thanks Marine5, both my parents were marines. They got married during tech school in 29 palms and subsequently divorced. So I can understand your condescending attitude and skepticism. However I feel like as a newer member of the military I should try to seek out the social norms of this situation. I feel like this is the mature and responsible thing to do... seek out information and opinions to guide my own.