An older retired woman with no family locally has no friends because she has alienated everyone by her rudeness recently had hip surgery and now is in the nursing home. I feel I should go see her because she has no one, but I have been hesitant to do so because I am not too enthusiastic about the probability of her being rude to me. My husband and adult children have advised not to bother with her because she will hurt my feelings. What say you?
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Go see her.
She has no one.
How would you feel if you were in her shoes.
Be a Christian soul and try not to judge.
Peace.
angelacatirina
Got with your gut. If you have an instinct to go, then do it. If you're a perpetual do-gooder who is always screwing yourself over with your own do-goodienss, then maybe not. There are other ways to help: try contacting not-for-profit services in the area that assist seniors. "meals on wheels" for instance, probably has a coordinator that can connect you with other senior services provided in your area for your friend.
I've worked for not-for-profit's for years and this is exactly what they are there for. They are financially supported by civic and private grants, as well as private donors. Bottom line though, don't over-commit yourself and/or your family to something you don't REALLY want to take on. Elder care, especially, can be a HUGE emotional and financial drain.
treebird
You should go if you decide you want to, but I don't see that you have any actual obligation to her. You obviously have a kind heart and care about people's feelings. You have observed that she doesn't seem to be much like you in that way. If you do decide to visit her perhaps you should be prepared with a plan about what you will say and do if she is rude to you.
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If you feel you want to go,go.If she insults you,all you have lost is a little time and learnt a lesson.Dont be put off,nothing ventured nothing gained,is the saying!! You never know you might hit it off!! Sometimes friendships crop up in the strangest situations..good luck!!