Husband wants more sex, I'm stressed out, Help?
Long story short, we've been having some pretty serious problems in our marriage, our financial life, and our sex life. We were having sex several times a day (this is with having a 10 month-old baby). I was working from home as a writer. Then, I found out that he was trying to cheat on me with women online. I left for a few weeks so that he could figure out what he really wants out of life, since we've been having problems off and on for awhile.
Fast forward a month. I moved back in and got a job outside the home to make a more consistent income and to build a career. He works 12 hour night shifts that rotate weekends, I work day shifts. There's only really a few days a week we're even around each other for more than an hour early in the morning. When we're around each other and the baby's asleep, we have sex.
Here's the problem. He's not happy with that. I'm fighting my feelings of betrayal, trying to build a new job, and I'm still doing contracts for my clients in my free time. (I don't have a choice. We're trying to claw our way out of student loan debt hell. If I don't make extra, we'll go under.) He gets mad at me when I turn him down for sex after he just not five minutes ago was telling me to go cry in the other room (he hurt my feelings) because he doesn't care.
I don't want to be a bad wife, but I'm really getting pushed to my limit here. What should I do?
Oh, and sorry for the horrible writing quality. I'm upset and even writers don't always check everything when they're upset. :-P
Ryde On: If were not physically around each other, we can't have sex. It's really simple. So now what?
It's not "outside interests" it's either we make more money, or we get our power turned off. Not my freaking choice.
So, basically you're saying that I should have sex with him when he pretty much told me to go screw myself? I don't hold a grudge long here, folks, but you try being enthusiastic about having sex with someone who just told you off and didn't apologize. He has a right to be pissy if he wants, but don't expect me to be happy he's in a bad mood. Also, I hardly ever turn him down as a general rule. That was one time.