How to tell my parents that I'm not grounded?

My mom & I got in a fight and so I left and slept at my friends house. Now she's trying to take my phone, car, and social life away. I have too many responsibilities & I don't have time for her to be annoying and limit me. So basically how do I tell her that I don't accept her grounding without getting into another fight? She wants to ground me for months btw. I'm captain of my dance team, soccer team & I have a job, plus I babysit a lot. All these things require communication which is why I need my phone. Anyways any advice would be nice. I'm only 17 if that changes anything...

2011-07-22T22:35:52Z

I know that I'm a minor but really? Months? It's completely over dramatic. I don't drink or do drugs, I do good in school & the only reason I left is because I don't handle fights well. My instinct is to run away..

2011-07-22T22:43:19Z

I'm not anywhere close to being the enter of the universe. & if I had committed an actual crime then I would fine doing "the time". The thing is, is that this isn't a job, it's a family relationship. I have a job so I know how to interact in a working environment.

?2011-07-23T00:39:31Z

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i guess apologize for your actions and come to a negotiation since you have so many responsibilities.

you have car, most 17 years old don't. if you bought it and paid for it that's very rare as well but if you didn't your mom is probably feeling like that is only a privilege to have and must use it as punishment. but having a job would only make it harder for you to get to work so you will need your car and phone as you said.

come to a thought, peaceful, negotiation with her and see what punishment can fit your schedule

Anonymous2011-07-23T00:59:22Z

Get over it. maybe you should be more mature and stand there and talk to your mom instead of running away. So what if you cant handle conflict, how do you expect to handle things when your out of school working and on uour own personally you deserve to have all that taken away. You should be more respectful. And if ypu don't own the car, pay for your phone or any of that then there's not a things you can do about it. who cares if your captain of all those things and babysit and whatnot. You still disrespected your mom by leaving. Maybe you should think about these things before being a drama queen.

echo.2011-07-22T22:37:15Z

I'm sorry! :( That sucks BAD. Instead of telling her you don't accept being grounded, try to reason with her. Tell her that you're sorry for disrespecting her (even if you didn't/aren't). Also, tell her it won't happen again. Then explain that you have a job and responsibilities such as dance team, soccer, babysitting, and say you really need your phone and car in order to fulfill these responsibilities. If you think it'd be easier, try emailing her.

?2011-07-22T22:33:57Z

Maybe you should accept your punishment and stop thinking that you're the center of the universe.

If your life is so damn important, get a plan that only allows a certain amount if calls or here's another shocker! Use the home phone! Wow!

............!2011-07-22T22:38:46Z

Uh, well, maybe if you hadn't LEFT the house you wouldn't have gotten punished as badly as you did. You did what you did so you have to suffer the consequences. Sorry, but that's the way life works.

If someone fires you you're going to tell them you're not fired? If you can't do the time, don't do the crime.

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