Why do people get married any more considering the high rate of divorce?
I married forever and I gave my youth and all that was in me to a creep. I felt I had promised God. Eventually God told me that he didn't call me to be in a verbally and emotionally destructive relationship. I really don't understand why so many people keep getting married when there is such a high rate of divorce? People spend thousands of dollars on weddings and some marriages are nightmares. Why does our culture even bother any more?
MarriedInLove2011-07-31T18:48:55Z
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I think too many people get caught up in the "wedding" and societal pressure. We puglamorize focus on weddings instead of marriages - the value of a marriage that was there previously just doesn't seem to exist very often anymore. My husband and I were speaking about this the other day - almost half of all the weddings we've been to in the last five years are divorced. They didn't even make it to their five year anniversary, how sad is that? </3
You need to find your best friend, make your wedding ceremony just about the two of you and love each other like crazy for the rest of your lives!
Asking why people marry in spite of the high divorce rate is like asking why people drive when there's a good chance they'll be involved in a fatal or life-threatening car accident. Because we are hopeful beings. Because that need and desire to connect with a mate is so strong. And truly, if even those who eventually divorced subjectively examined their marriages, I'm sure they'd be able to find SOME happiness, SOME connection, SOME feeling-- even if only temporary-- that made them feel larger than life. And, because sometimes it works. I've been married to the same man for 30 years and I couldn't be happier.
According to statistics, 60% of people never divorce. Those 50/50 divorce statistics include people who marry and divorce multiple times, not just once.
The fact that your marriage ended is sad. It's good that divorce exists so that people aren't forced any longer to remain in unhappy marriages. However, you need to temper your bitterness. The fact that your marriage failed, doesn't meant that marriage should be thrown out the window.
We chose to spend very little on our wedding. We preferred to do other things with our money than shell out $12,000 for a wedding. My husband and I preferred the commitment of marriage to just shacking up. Well, I did anyway. He probably would have been happy with shacking up. ;) His 1st marriage wasn't very happy either, so I do get it.
The marriage vows include, "Till death do us part", not "Till divorce do us part". People don't go into marriage with a future divorce in mind. I did not let one situation dictate what I do for the rest of my life. you should not either.