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With simple ones I've just taken a lot of walks or trolley rides. With the other ones...It took a lot of domestic violence intervention. With that...they tell me to look forward. It's not easy but it's better than looking back.
Aleksandra
Not in a healthy way... I didn't want to see anybody, talk to anybody, I didn't study for exams at all, I started overeating myself so it led to an eating disorder again (I had anorexia when I was 15), I fell into a depression, I was totally messed up. I tried talking to friends, going out, but somehow I just felt worse, it didn't help me at all. All that people around me only made me cry - the laughing, the thing that they feel good, music, places, couples holding hands, the fact that they seemed happy. So it took me over a year to get over that, not the guy, but the disappointment. And the worst thing was that I was so lost, like I couldn't exist on my own.I was desperately seeking help, when the help was in me.Once, it just dawned on me, that nobody can't really help me, I mean my closest ones listen, try to be understanding, watch me cry for the xy-th time, tell me what I should do...but I realized that I don't feel any better. Because that is the best thing they can do. They can ease the pain, but can't make it go away. I had to face all that.The thing is, (unfortunately) that no one can help you, only you can help yourself, and that is only when you DECIDE you want to be "helped", I mean, when you FEEL ready to move on. I think it's important to take it slow. At the time I was 24, and I have to say it wasn't my first relationship or the first guy I fell in love with.
From this point of view, I think that this is the way it 's supposed to be. And what didn't kill me, made me stronger. I feel so much different now, and I don't think I would be this way if it wasn't for all this. Now I see clearly that the problem was also, that I needed to learn to BE on my own, because I spent all of my life being in long term relationships.I try to find the best in all the mess, you know? Things happen for a reason.
xcurlyman14x
Not well.... But it's a long story. But go out and hang with friends, do stuff you like, anything that will keep you occupy. Maybe try something new, like a hobby. It will get easier, just don't sit around and morn about it. Good luck bro