I am a new high school sophomore. I have always been a straight A honors student. I present myself nicely for school and am nice to everyone.
My problem is my friend. One of my friends is one of the smartest, prettiest, and most athletic girls in our grade. She's class president (I'm VP) and a top runner on our cross-country team (I'm a solid runner, upper middle of the pack). Her family has money, so she can go to college anywhere she wants, and knows exactly what she wants to do. I have no classes with her this year because she is in really advanced classes with seniors. I've always had problems of being jealous of her, but that isn't even really the problem this time. I just feel like she is always looking down on me, and treating me like I'm not as good as her. I'm afraid to talk to her about anything, even say hello, because I'm afraid she will judge me. When I do smile at her or wave in the hall, she usually sees one of her older and "cooler" friends and doesn't see me.
I am friendly with a fair amount of the girls in our grade, but I have no energy or desire to try to get to know other people. This is not the way I wanted to start the school year. I would mention it to her, but I have a feeling I am just creating this mess and its my fault. I really don't want to go back to school- I don't like any of my classes either.
If this is something that is just meant to be, are there any tips for how to get over/ deal with a break-up with your best friend? Or how to avoid one?
Thanks so much!
Anna2011-09-01T19:38:18Z
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Don't be jealous. I was one of the over achieving types... I was onebof the top athletes in the state for basketball, softball, soccer, track and cross-country.. I danced, was all-stet in band choir and orchestra, and I was one of the top math students in the state. I was a straight A student and took advanced classes... I was on the SGA, scholars bowl team, stock market team, knowledge masters, I swam, was in the bible club and national honors society, etc... I had tons of scholarship offers for academics, sports, and music and a kick *** ACT score... But does any of this matter at all in my life now? No. I was under so much pressure from my parents to e the best. It was brutal. Even with all of that I can't remember my parents telling me they were proud of me... I cried once when my band director told me he was because no one ever said they were. Now I'm very happy and I don't obsess with being the best in order to be loved... So basically even though someone may appear to have it all, chances are they are struggling with something now or will later in life... No one has a perfect life. Just look for your strengths and what makes you happy. High schoolbis such a short time in your life, and you should always do your best, but don't ever let anyone make you feel bad about yourself. There is always going to be someone out there who is better at thins than you... But that doesn't detract from what makes you special. If you become okay with who you are you will be more yourself with your friend... Chances are that you may be acting differently around her because you feel insecure. If you become more secure and she is acting strange then try talking to her. Tell her that when she spends so much time with her older friends you feel a little left out and ask her to invite her friends out to do something with the two of you. Build a friendship with her friends and that way she doesn't have to split time between people. And remember you aren't in a competition with her. Be proud of her and yourself for your different yet equally important accomplishments.
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im sorry i already lost u right after u said that YOU ARE nice to EVERYONE and a STRAIGHT A honorol student and ur PRESENTABLE!! i mean come on ppl wud KILL to just b as smart as u r i think that u r letten HER get to u and ur head if she really is looking down on u and u feel that way let her know and if she denys say oh well thatz how i felt but im good now so just stay focus and always thrive to b the best just dnt let HER get to ur head im sure u r waaaaay better then her and i dnt even know you :) i know girls lyk that and im posative she has a flaw or flaws so just know that u r just as good as her well i think ur better but hey this is about u goodluck :)
friendships come and go only the stronger ones will stay and don't compare yourself with a friend or no one for that matter you're you focus on you and you do you am pretty sure she feels the same way if shes your friend and you still want to be friends with her then go ahead but don't be her bff or really trust her just be nice and try your hardest.