I need to know the Christian thing to do?

I am going to try to make a very , very long story short:

I am going to give a little backround. My family is a very dysfunctional family. They have caused me a lot of heartache and grief to last 4 life times. I am a 32 year old female and have a child. They have treated me pretty rotton just like they treat each other rotton, but for the last few years I have been and stayed the target of everything probably because I have needed them the most in the past few years because my husband left me. They always pick on the weak and vunerable, its just how they are. Anway when my husband left me, I had to move 500 miles away where my brother lived. My brother has been away for almost 11 years. So its just me and my brother who live in our current city while the rest of my family live in the other city.

Sadly my brother starting abusing me soon after I got there. I havent seen him in so long and had no idea how much he had changed. He became a monster. My brother has 2 kids and each have different mothers. He is a drug dealer and has been for 10 years and has never gotton caught and he prides himself on this. His ego is so out of control. He treats others around him very badly including his friends and his current girlfriend (one of his sons mom). His girlfriend has learn to disrespect me through him. She is a real rude person and she likes to be mean to you because of what my brother puts her through, that she likes to take it out on everybody else because she is too chicken to stand up to my brother. She can be very condencing and will try to make you feel really low about yourself. Being the Christian I am, I allow her to get away with her behavior because I know how bad my brother treats her and I feel sorry for her. I really do because my brother treats her very bad and I am not exaggerating.

One time my brother and his girlfriend ganged up on me (well actually severl times) do to disagreements we would have. It was always 2 against 1. They would bully the heck out of me and I mean bully in every sense of the word, but I stood up for myself as best as I could and tried to forgive them because they know not what they do

ok now that I gave you some backround... heres what happened: My brother , his girlfriend and the kids took a vacation back to our hometown where all my family lives ( he goes at least once a year) to see them. Well he calls me lastnight crying like a little baby (my brother is 28 years old) stating that my uncle beat the living sh*t out of him. My brothers girlfriend apparently treated my mom very poorly the whole week they were there and my mom just couldnt take it anymore so in anger my mom callled her an "ugly sl*t". My brother took my mothers hand and hit it several times like she was a little child (very degrading), the way he hits his girlfriend... and my uncle saw this and then kicked the living sh*t out of my brother, pretty bad. I guess my brother made the mistake in that he forgot he was not in his current hometown where he gets away with murder and made the sad mistake to bring that bad attitude he has back in our home city where normal people dont take that crap. Not only that, nobody in my family took my brothers side and even lied about what happened to him. The same thing they would do to me. My brother is not use to anyone disagreeing with him and not having his side. Anyway, heres my question:

After I found out the whole story , I really felt good that my Uncle kicked my brothers a$$ and now I feel anger toward my brothers girlfriend for what she did to my sweet mom who has been nothing but nice to that girl. Please tell me what to do and how God would want me to handle these types of feelings because I have been doing really good with my Christianity and these types of feelings I dont want to have. I need some guidence because if I dont get any, my anger is going to get the better of me. Also, I do not want to feel "good" about what happened to my brother. Any suggestions? Thank you

2011-09-16T04:50:36Z

Let me clarify my question. I want to take advantage of this situation while everyone is against my brother and give him and his girlfriend more hell just like they have done to me for so very long. This might be my only chance for a long time to come. I also think I should say somthing to make them realize what they really are. I am trying to avoid that temptation. Sorry for the long, long read. I hope someone out there will read it because I am trying so hard to follow in Christ.

2011-09-16T05:55:22Z

Thank you to all who have responded so far!

Dont worry, I do not live with these people anymore. I have my own place thank the dear lord. So dont worry.

Anonymous2011-09-16T05:08:30Z

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Aaww! Talk about "Family Values" !
Horrible heterosexual shenanigans!
You must face up to the situation or it will keep returning in later lives - that's a basic law of karma.
The Christian thing does not demand that you put up with bs.
Tell him what goes around comes around. He's only getting what he created and subjected others to. If he does not change, he'll get more of the same, not necessarily from the same person. Meanwhile, tell him and his gf to leave your Mom alone.
Have nothing more to do with this creep after that. If he comes howling again, just repeat what I've said above.

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taya2011-09-16T05:20:21Z

Well, God has His ways. Man proposes, God disposes. Looks like you trying to get an eye for an eye. Revenge. Tit-for-tat. You have gone through hell, so now it's pay-back time. My personal opinion is that revenge is not going to solve any problem for you or for anyone else for that matter. Christ is about love. Remember how Christ preached about God's love and how the priests revolted. Christ was going against the establishment where God's wrath was the calling-card upon which the priests depended for their livelihood. Remember what the priests did to Christ? Well, if you are true to your beliefs then you must be prepared to be crucified too. So, don't seek revenge. Rather seize the opportunity and show how much you love your brother. This may be the most opportune time. Love conquers all, haven't you heard. You don't put out fires by fire. Rather, you throw water. You have upheld Christianity for such a long time. Don't ruin everything now just when the harvest is round the corner. Now is the time for you to prove to yourself what a true Christian you are. Don't fail yourself. Cheerio.

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Seven2011-09-16T05:50:31Z

Wow...sorry to hear about all the troubles with you and your family. I know that your options are probably limited (being as you are single, 32 years old, and have a child), but it sounds like you are living in a toxic environment -- trying to raise a child in that situation must be extremely difficult. I don't know if you have any other family members you could move in with? Or, perhaps, if you found a good church in your area that would help you get back on your feet (i.e.- help you towards getting a place of your own)?

Following/emulating Christ is a life-long growing process. We all stumble and make mistakes...

Per your response to the situation:
Trying to "take advantage of the situation" (i.e.- getting revenge") really doesn't gain you anything, does it? At most, it might give you a day or two of mental/emotional satisfaction....then what? You are right back where you started.

In Matthew chapter 5 Jesus tells us we should 'love our enemies and pray for those who persecute us...' When we are maligned we should be willing to "turn the other cheek". This doesn't mean you allow yourself to become someone else's "doormat" or "punching bag" -- we need to avoid people that would treat us shamefully. However, we do need to forgive those who sin against us. Jesus wants us to be a reflection of God's grace and mercy....

I maybe would encourage you to "take advantage of the situation" in a different way; Reach out to your brother in love and compassion. Ask him to look at his life, and reflect on the choices he has made (and try not to ask in a condescending or judgmental manner). Is he really happy?
Share your own struggles with him...your feelings & emotions (including how the verbal put-downs make you feel). Share with him how you "want more" from life....that you want to emulate the life and attitude of Jesus (even though it's a daily struggle to following through on that).

If you share your faith & heart; he may be receptive, or he may scoff. That's fine. You are not responsible for "changing him". You couldn't if you tried. All you can do is share from your heart, and pray that God uses your message. We don't always see "instant results" when we share our faith. Sometimes, our message might just be planting a seed for someone/something else that will happen months or years later....

I'll say a prayer for you and your family...

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Daniel Jones2011-09-16T04:57:53Z

wow that's a tough situation. im just going to go ahead and give you the christian answer here, because that's what you're looking for. First i don't think you need to be made at them or try to get revenge. (check number 32: 23) Also in my opinion God can be the judge, its not up to me to condemn or degrade people for what they did. And finally here one more verse that i really like

Matthew 5:44(NIV)
But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you...

yes i did read your whole story

and last thing i know people are gonna down vote this because i sound hypocritical, i am human and this is the way i want to live but i am a human just lie you and i do make mistakes, so chill.

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