ive been with my boyfriend on and off since 9th grade, we are now seniors and when we broke up over the summer he went out with this girl,had sex with her. and then asked for forgivness,which i gave to him. but it keeps eating at me. i constantly have resentment and hate in my heart even though i love him so much. i dont know how to overcome this feeling. i dont want to leave him :/ he is my first love. he is the one i feel the most comfortable with but it just keeps eating at me please give me your advice, your stories. does it get easier?' i just dont understand why i deserved what i got from him i have always been the best girlfriend to him
?2011-11-01T14:38:31Z
Well, it all depends on you. He didn't cheat on you, but let me ask you something, were you two having sex in the relationship before he broke up with you and went for that other girl?
If you weren't, he was probably growing tired of investing 4 years into a relationship with you, and not getting any sex (I know, sounds shallow, but most guys in high school are)
Now that he got it out of his system, he wanted the girl he loved and trusted back. So he got back with you.
Personally, I would never take back an ex that did this to me. Because to me, it would be like getting told "You're my second choice. I thought I could've done better, but I couldn't, so I'll take you."
I understand why you are angry. You can break up with him, because it sounds like he really hurt you, or you can stay with him, because it also sounds like you still love him. Breaking up won't mean you'll get rid of those feelings of anger and hatred, but he won't be there, and maybe thats what you want. Keeping him, I don't know how that will make you feel.
Like Navy said forgive and forget. If you cant you may need to move on. If you were broken up as you say, then he did not cheat on you.So you have to decide if his doing this, means you can not love him anymore. We all make mistakes some are bigger then others. Good Luck in the future.
only ask him some questions u can usually tell while some a million such as you spot what ya have in situation-unfastened carry out some situations and that i think of if he's fascinated he will make a pass yet dont rush it.
Try and take solace in the fact that he probably slept with that chick to try and get over you, and it didn't work because he didn't really -want- to get over you. He came back, which is more meaningful than going away in the first place.