My boyfriend asked a girl to send him naked pictures of her?

I've been in a really good relationship with my boyfriend for over 6 months. While he was taking a shower, I grabbed his cellphone because I wanted to delete some photos he took of me that he refused to delete earlier, so I thought I would do it myself. As I unlocked it, (this just appeared in front of me, I did not go to messages - I guess it's because it's the last thing he was looking at, so I didn't really snoop around - it came right on the screen) a text message thread appeared with another girl, and it directly grabbed my attention the sentence "I sent you the picture of my butt that you asked for, did you get it?". So I scrolled up to read the whole thing from the beginning. Turns out, she asked him to write an assignment for her, and he asked her to send him naked pictures of her in return - and he was very specific like; I want 10 pictures of you, a picture of your butt, a picture between your legs, etc. When he came out of the shower, I was very mad at him, and asked him to take me back to my place, and then sent him a text saying I don't want to see him ever again. He texted me several times saying he's sorry and that what he did is inexcusable and that he wasn't thinking and he is dumb. I asked him to give me my keys back so he came over and he didn't want to leave, he was very sorry and all he wanted was me to forgive him and promised he will be a better boyfriend. My question is, what should I do? I can forgive him, but how can I trust him? And how can I believe him? Does the fact that he was very sorry and didn't want to leave and begged my forgiveness means he cares about me and he really didn't mean to do what he did? I am confused at this point and I can't think straight. Please help me.

Sarah B2011-11-22T22:18:28Z

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You should just dump him and forget about him. He's just sorry he got caught. He obviously meant to do what he did, because he's the one who asked. In a text. He would have had some time to think about what he was doing and actually type it out. He CHOSE to do that. He's a jerk.
My ex cheated on me, then begged for forgiveness and for me to stay with him, so I did. Then about a month later he dumped me. Then he dated one of my friends, and cheated on her. I guess the saying is true. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He obviously doesn't really love you if he's doing things like that, and obviously doesn't care about how you feel.
You probably wouldn't ever be able to trust him again. I couldn't.
Leave him. You deserve someone better.

niesha2016-10-05T04:44:51Z

Girl Naked Pictures

Anonymous2016-12-17T13:37:01Z

A Girl Naked

Cheyne Kinsman2011-11-22T22:20:29Z

Me being a guy I know how he is feeling. Once a guy makes a mistake and sees how hurt a girl is they usually feel really bad as it sounds he is at the moment. The first step is to forgive and it seems you have done this 6months is a short time to make your first mistake but trust plays a big key for you 2 now.

I think you should trust him but be very cautious of his lies once he makes another mistake you need to think if hes the right guy because asking another female for pictures he sounds like a pervert or desperate for something other than you.

So you have forgiven him , but can you trust him ? You need to be very careful that he doesn't lie or stab you in the back again is all I'm saying do you believe in second chances? Its up 2 you in the end

Anonymous2016-05-01T02:59:41Z

If you are doing any of these things, you have to stop right now. Because if you're asking, "What can I do to get my ex back," all of the above mistakes will not do it, so stop doing these things immediately!

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You have to stop whatever you've been doing. It obviously didn't work, and if you were making the mistakes I mentioned above, then you really need to stop and take a step back. It's time for a fresh approach. You have to break complete contact with him, at least for a while. If you really like him, I know this is going to be difficult, but you have to do it. You can't communicate with him in any way. So, no texting, no IM'ing, no anything. You have to go "cold turkey" in a sense. You can consider this "you time" where you work on yourself. You have to work on improving your life instead of focusing your attention on your failed relationship. This will be probably be a difficult time for you, and it's going to feel almost impossible to not call him, but you'll need to stay disciplined so that you don't revert back to your old ways. Just remember that what you were doing wasn't working. You're trying something new.

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