When my husband is mad at me sometimes he slaps me, never in the face, and pushes me because I get in his way. Is that the same as being "hit" by him. He says he would never hurt me or hit me but isn't getting slapped the same thing?
OnceLiberty
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Charges could be pressed from even by a touch with a finger. It is insane how you could ruin his life (and your marriage) through a simple accusation to law enforcement. Everyone gets into arguments that can sometimes get into shoving to maintain space. Don't get between him and the door. Don't raise the volume of the discussion. Sounds like he needs to step out to think and you are trying to force him to do something he isn't quite ready to accept. Make you point and then give him space. If he follows you and gets violent then you need to change conversation to how you won't tolerate that kind of behavior from anyone. Men get upset when they feel they are not getting respect. That causes arguments, but can also be used to stop them from behaving badly.
Liz
Just how are you "getting in his way"? Is this one of those get in face and scream at him deals or something else entirely?
And how and where on your body does he slap you? Laying a hand on another when you're angry is never good,but there are extenuating circumstance SOME times.
PLEASE don't think for a second I'm taking his side here. Far from it. But I learned very early on in my career as a divorce attorney to keep an open mind when a client waltzed in screaming about how the big lout hit her. My investigator would later find that he merely pushed her away as she was going for his head with a cast iron frying pan or some other easily explainable incident that didn't come remotely close to spousal abuse. So I want to make sure we're all singing off the same page first.
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Does he slap his friends other family or coworkers and push them out of the way? If the answer is no then, yes it's the same as being hit!
Anonymous
I don't see pushing as a big deal, but technically it is.
Slapping, yes, that's hitting. Where is he slapping you?
But Inside I'm Screaming
A slap is always a hit. A hit is not always a slap.