I just read my son's diary. I am scared for his safety?

My 17 year old son is probably everything a parent would ever want. He helps with the house work & cooking, he's very intelligent (he's going to a really good university), and he actually listens to me. One day, I was looking for my son when I noticed a strange book partially concealed in his bedroom. I didn't know what it was so I opened it up at random, I instantly recognized his neat cursive writing. I read a bit of it and I was shocked into stupor by its contents! I read all of it after that, even though I knew it was an invasion of privacy. I had always thought we were open...

It contained... well I don't understand it, let alone know what to call it. Apparently everything he has done for the last 5 years was in training for his 'future master'... For example, one entry said this:

"Dear diary,
Mom just taught me how to make the best chocolate cake! I hope my future Master likes sweet stuff!"

This explains why he likes to help out all the time with housework. The diary also explains why he works so hard at school:

"Dear diary,
Sorry I haven't been making many entries lately, but I've been busy studying. This is all for my future Master... A dumb dog is only useful for being cute, but an intelligent one is an even more impressive pet!"

I'm not really surprised that he is gay, but this sounds psychotic. He didn't write anything sexual in his diary, so I don't think it's a fetish, but a lifestyle he actually wants... His first entries were from five years ago when he was just 12 years old! I have to do something soon because this is what he wrote on his 17th birthday:

"Dear diary,
It's my 17th today! Just one more year till I can finally actively search for my future Master, which is good considering this diary is almost finished. Hopefully He will be happy with this book as a gift of my thoughts and actions over the last few years about Him. If not, that's okay, because He is my owner; He can do whatever He wants with His property!"

My son is going to turn 18 in two months! I am kind of mad at him because everything which makes me proud of him was done because of this arbitrary 'future master,' rather than for himself. But more importantly, I'm afraid for his safety because it sounds like he's attracted to dangerous men who will treat him like an object! I want to do the correct thing, that's why I'm taking the risk and posting some of his journal entries. Should I let him do what he wants, or should I stop him?

Anonymous2012-04-09T20:30:33Z

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I laughed at this. Not because what it contains, but because my partner thinks the same way. My partner has a BDSM fetish (Even though I will not attempt it). It appears to be only one of two things:

Clear as Day-Light BDSM Fetish

or worse:

Satanism

I'm openly gay, Methodist and I'd hate to say that evil "S" word, but look at both possibilitys. I would just confront him about it but make it lean on his side of control for the conversation then take back the reigns to get the information you need. My Partner is an Athiest and I'm a Methodist but BDSM Bottom's normally refer to their Top partner's as 'Master' but if he's been writing for years, then it might be more than BDSM.

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?2012-04-09T20:39:07Z

You have a right to be concerned. This shouldn't be his mindset. He shouldn't be thinking of himself as property. I say you do something about it. Get him help. No one should be treated like property or want to be property. He might hate you for interfering with his life goal (not sure what to call this), but he could get himself into serious danger. He could run into someone who will abuse him, hurt him, neglect him, or possibly kill him. I don't know much about these kinds of relationships, but it mentality doesn't seem right. I say talk to a professional person like a therapist, psychiatrist, or anyone in this field and see what they think first. Hope this helped!

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Fantazmickb2012-04-09T20:29:16Z

Wow! You should be ashamed of yourself for snooping through your son's private and personal writing. This was just plain wrong and something that you will have to live with. Now, how will you use this to help your son change directions? That is the tough question because this theme needs to be dealt with...but how do you tell him that you invaded his privacy? Maybe you don't tell him that you read his diary but you cannot tell him that you know. How can you start the conversations?
It sounds like you are a loving parent looking for help....so it might be helpful to find a DVD that breaches this theme or a book that does so. This may bring you to a place ro start the conversation of how and why people choose ro engage in master/slave behavior. The only film scene I can remember is in the movie Nine to Five where the secretaries tie up the boss and place him in a slave scenario. I know there are many other films that use this theme, maybe even some episodes of CSI or Law & Order. Do your research and do it quickly.
Or maybe you just openly tell him what and how you know as you beg for forgiveness. Breaking a trust like this can be a difficult thing to forgive, but it is not impossible, after all you love your son and I think you support his sexuality and will support him however you can.
Tell him how much you love him and value your relationship and your ability to do things together. If he engages in this type of relationship, he may be banned from seeing you. Study up on the theme, as it sounds like he has.
I wish you the best of luck.

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?2012-04-09T20:17:59Z

obvious troll is obvious.

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?2012-04-09T20:15:16Z

is your son gay?

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