How do I make my husband understand cheating is wrong?
I've been married for almost 3 years. I love my husband more than words can express. When he asked me to marry him I was so happy. I told him about my ex husband cheating on me throughout our marriage. He took me in his arms and reasured me that he would never do anything like that to me.
His job has him out of town 80% of the time. He hardly ever has ANY kind of sexual relationship with me. It's been that way from the start. At the end of our 1st year together I found out that he was cheating on me. I forgave him and he promised never again.
The no sex problem still continued. I asked him to please talk to me so we can get this resolved. He would always tell me he would make time to talk but never would. He was pushing me away faster and faster everyday.
At the end of the 2nd year. I couldn't take it anymore. Things were getting worse by the min. He started treating me worse & acting like he just didn't care. I told him I was going to leave, he wouldn't talk about or try to fix it & treating me bad on top of it wasn't going to work any more. He came to me and told me "Please don't think it's your fault, it's all my fault. I will sit down and discuss it with you. I Promised" We had a family commitment to take care of, so he asked me to please give him 2 more days. I was so happy, I told him sure no problem.
His job sent him out of town. So I waited for 3 weeks before I brought it up again. When I did, WW-III started. He got mean and hateful any time I tried to bring it up. It got horrible and continued to get worse once I told him I was going to start checking up on him. OMG he got real bad. He wasn't taking me anywhere & if he did I had to stay in the car. I was only leaving the house 2 or 3 times a month. This when on for another 8mos (He was out of town 5 1/2 of the 8mos). All the while, he's one day telling me I'm the love of his life & the next telling me I turn his stomach.
Now we are almost 9mos from his promised and I find out he has been cheating the whole time. He had never intended to stop when we got married. He's not cheating with just one woman, he's cheating every-time he's out of town.
I love him so much. I just don't think he will stop. I found him on dating sites before I confronted him. He has been acting like he dropped a dish, not CHEATED on his wife. BTW......with NO protection!! I'm scared, I don't know who or what!!
I'm not sure if I can forgive him, but i'm willing to talk. Last night he was on the dating sight again! (he went out of town yesterday)
Please honey, if you read this, I love you, but I can't live this way. I believe in you and have always told you, if we stand together, we can make it! Please give it up.....100% this time. You never gave me a fair chance. You know what kind of wife, mother and person I am. You know what I have given up and done for you. You want to toss me away like trash and you don't want me to get anything in return.
Please Please!!