My "friends" are insensitive jerks?

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I'm Bisexual, they have known this for a few years. They are constantly using the F word around me they use gay as an adjective for bad. I've told them how I feel about it, they don't seem to care. My best friend that I've know since we were children does all of these things too. They don't think being gay is wrong or bad but they still act like children who just learned a bad word and can't stop using it. 

Today I confronted him (politely) while he was doing this and he goes on this rant about "getting over it" and "everyone has to deal with prejudice" and "I should go back in the closet if I don't like it" I know he was in a bad mood but this finally did it for me and I left. 

So I guess what I'm asking is what now? I don't want to be around people who don't seem to try to care, who don't mind if I feel like crap when they do this. But I don't want to lose this friendship I've had with them for years. Has anyone here ever dealt with this kind of thing?

Brezzars · Accepted Answer

People change. Here are 2 things you could do.

Keeping them but make them understand what you feel :
Find something similar. Something that they hate about themselves, and exploit it. Use it to your advantage. If they keep using these words around you, just tell them off by using that 'something'.

Letting them go :
Just let them go, find people who won't be childish. There actually are people like that. It will be simple for you because you'll just have to be yourself :)

(TBH, If I were you, I'd pick the 2nd one.)

McCall Evans · Answer

I am so sorry to hear that. But, I have found out in the past week and few days that I am going to have to find my own happiness. That means spending the holidays with my "chosen" family. I never wanted it to get to that point. But, I have suffered more bigotry in the past few days from both family and friends than I can handle. I WON'T take it anymore; and niether should you. Time to find new friends.

Anonymous · Answer

Perhaps start using badwords that they don like either lol like forreal haha or just try to hangout with more gay people more

? · Answer

some times we outgrow our friends and it sucks but its not worth it to suffer in the name of old memories of friendships, so break it off

? · Answer

Grow a pair then

My "friends" are insensitive jerks?

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