How do I deal with this friend? (Need some REAL advice)?
I have this friend and I'm kind of conflicted about her. In some ways she's a good friend and in other ways, she treats me like crap. I found out she was spreading rumors about me and trying to steal my other friends (except my bestie, who sees through her b.s.) She can be generous in paying for stuff, but then brings out the guilt trips when I don't do what she says. She's very manipulative and likes to start arguments in public so she can play the victim and make me out to be the bad guy. I am also confused because she says she's a Christian and yet smokes pot, sleeps with anything that walks and all kind of other stuff. Sorry it's so long, but wanted to give all the information.
Anonymous2012-11-30T13:29:54Z
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This person is in no way a friend. you said your self she is "manipulative". you shouldn't ever surround your self with people who make you feel bad, only make time for people who are a positive role in your life. I say just avoid her, or even explain to her that you don't want to be her friend.
well , i dont think there is anything wrong with smoking pot if you're a christian, there actually isnt anything in the bible that says you shouldnt,i personally dont care for it, but i wouldnt say someones not a christian if they do. but being a whore is definitley out lol pretty much, she may think she beleives in christ, but she might not KNOW him no jesus, no change, know jesus, know change, and it depends, if you are a guy, she might be yelling at you in public to feel victimized and make others feel bad for you, and if youre a girl, either A she is an attention whore, or B she wants people to think badly of you so that they will think better of her ( aka there is something about you, that she see's as more likeable than her, so she doesnt want others to see that) you should plainly tell her all the things that she is doing that bother you, and tell her to knock it off, because you arent going to subject yourself to manipulation and public humiliation. i did this before :) i was in the EXACT same situation, it works wounders. and stick to your word! if she doesnt stop, STOP talking to her!
I have had a friend (my cousin really) who has done similar things your friend has done. I would first confronte her and tell her how you feel about the way she is to you. Try to talk about it, if that doesn't work the I highly recommend you end your friendship with her and move on. A true friend will never treat you like that.
But if you really care for your friend you should try to help fix her ways.
Well, first, smoking pot has nothing to do with being Christian, so lets just get that out of the way. Second, this is no friend, and you should have nothing to do with her.
trust me, she aint worth it, and religion has nothing to do with it. ditch her. make her buy your lunch, then run. or get her to sleep with you. or manipulate her for cash. just avoid her. hit her with a truck. bludgen her untill she forgets her name. kill your parents, become a millionare, become the batman, frame her for a crime. spread some rumors back and make sure it can come back that you said it. call her a whore. burn her house down, show no remorse. so many options.