Why am I attracted to other girls when I love my girlfriend so much?

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I'm 27 and have been with my girlfriend (21) just over six months. I honestly love her more than I knew I could love another person. She is truly the most ideal woman for me and I am fully attracted to her in every way. HOWEVER, we are both in college (different schools an hour apart) and I see all these hot girls everywhere I go and I hate that I'm attracted to them. I don't want to be with them, I don't even talk to them. I just like the way they look. It makes me feel like a bad boyfriend. I'm really concerned because I'm moving this fall to attend a school that's five hours away and I'll be there for the next three years excluding breaks and the occasional weekend home. I feel like if an attractive girl down there tried hard enough, I might cheat on my girlfriend. I've been in many relationships and I know I can't do better than her; she's my perfect match. I want to build a life with her and have a solid relationship, and I don't want to feel these temptations anymore. Is there something wrong me with me or is this true for all guys? Does she likely have the same temptations? We are very open and I could talk to her about this but I don't want to make her concerned if what I'm going through is normal. I just really need some advice.

WeirdlyCurly · Accepted Answer

Oh you have the same age difference between me as my boyfriend however I am 18 and he is 24. 
Okay now dude chill out everyone wants what they can't have. Especially when they're at university (college) that's when you see the true world, fit girls, skinny girls, fat girls, tall girls whatever!  You see them all. 
Your just attracted to them is actually pretty normal trust me my brother is married and he still look at women when they walk past (either to call them a s l a g or to just check them out) rude but true. 
Your probably doing it because you don't see your girlfriend and other woman may make you feel how you do with her OR fill that void you have with her.

I'm currently in a long distant relationship too, I'm at college (second part of high school) and my boyfriend has a masters doing work in a city that's 2 hours away from me and when he's home he's 1h and 30 min away from me, so it is pretty okay distance. 
He does as well as me wish we were closer, same house and bed and have our life but reality says no. What this is for you is a test. A test with your confidence in the relationship and a test to your relationship. If you feel like your going to cheat next "fall" then don't! If you believe in god think he's testing you to see if you can cope with what you have. Remember god only gives you what you can handle.

So back to the topic, just relax guys/girls think that when they're lovers are away from them, but you should make an effort to see her monthly at least (I do that with my bf) it's not enough but it's what we can do at the moment and you know what knowing she'll be the one whose there for you at the end of the day that should make you reconsider the attempt of cheating.

Relax, remember her all the time. Take those crazy pictures with her in those photo booths and place it in your bedroom mirror or whatever if you don't have one. Crazy memories are the best. Remember that mate.

Good luck with everything

Anonymous · Answer

If you're not attracted to her anyone then you prob have to finish with her because its not fair on her or you. Even though you are attracted to other people do not do anything about this until you have finished with your girlfriend it will only break her heart even more and you said you still love her. Your relationship has obviously went more to a friendship rather than a sexual relationship.

botello · Answer

I Love My Girls

bernice · Answer

I was searching for an answer on this too

Sam · Answer

She is way too young for you bro.

Why am I attracted to other girls when I love my girlfriend so much?

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