I Miss My Ex-Best Friend. Should I Try To Contact Her?

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So me and this other girl had a really great friendship and we'd talk to each other basically every day in high school. Then she met this other girl who was a complete ***** and was horrible to me. She (my then best friend) seemed to do more with the new girl, although she did still maintain a healthy relationship with me. Anyway, soon best friend started to take slight jibes at me with the new girl which hurt my feelings. I decided to leave her despite her texts and messages saying that she didn't mean it. It's been over a year now and we've still not spoke to each other, yet I miss her so much because we always knew how to make each other laugh and cheer each other up. I want to initiate contact with her but I'm afraid she'll reject me or mock me with the new girl...What do you think I should do?

chattahoochee_riverbird · Accepted Answer

This sort of happened with me and one of my best friends. We both applied to the same college and both got accepted but I took a gap year before going due to health problems. When I got there a year later, she had a bunch of new friends and everything was incredibly awkward after that. She acted like she barely knew me or had time for me, even though I was willing (and even tried) to get to know her new friends. They didn't want to have much to do with me either. I couldn't believe how much she'd changed in only a year. My best friend and I weren't the same after that (which was 10 years ago) and even though we're friends on Facebook, that's as close as we are now. I tried reconnecting but it didn't work and I finally just had to accept the fact that she moved on and I needed to as well. I was always open to reconnecting and being best friends again but it became a waiting game and I got tired of it. Although, I admit that if she wanted to reconnect even now, I wouldn't turn it down. I don't think I can completely give up on people who at one point in time meant a lot to me.

I think it's okay to try to contact your ex-best friend again, but don't wait for years like I did hoping y'all can go back to the way things were between y'all. I missed out on making new friends doing that. People change and grow apart and that's not always a bad thing. If you give it a shot, at least you'll know you tried.

I Miss My Ex-Best Friend. Should I Try To Contact Her?

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