How to know if a guy is after................?
How to know if a guy is after you as a person (personality (LOVE)) or if he's just after your looks (LUST)?
How to know if a guy is after you as a person (personality (LOVE)) or if he's just after your looks (LUST)?
Martin
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"Love is not a feeling.
Infatuation is a feeling.
Lust is a feeling.
But love is an action.
It is the decision to care about this person's well-being, to put their well-being as high as, or higher than, your own well-being,
and a commitment to treat that person with honesty, caring, and gentleness even when you have a FEELING of anger for them.
Love is an action."
Sounds like you don't know this guy well enough for it to be love. Nothing wrong with lust though ;)
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Miss Little Bunny
That is a tough question, because if a man is not after you for Lust (at least at first)
the there is something wrong with the guy. Let me clarify. Men are visual, so what
initially attracts a guy to a girl is her looks. It could just be her pretty face, or the
fact she does not have real thick ankles. lol
That is what gets a man to the woman. From then on though, things shift. If the girl
is very attractive, but turns out to be real bitchy, those looks go bye bye pretty fast.
Some guys, like I would, will not go out with her again, and she likely feels the same.
Other guys don't care, and will try to be physical with them and have sex.
If I had any advice for a young lady/woman - any age. Do not have sex with any man,
hopefully till marriage, but for certain, not until you really get to know him. Simmer his
lust down with your beautiful personality, and suddenly, he finds your attraction goes
under your skin to your heart, and it becomes true love.
Congrat
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Alka
Ow,
The guys of the second variety are somewhat easy to locate as most of the guys are plain lustful and abundant worldwide.
A guy if the first category is a difficult find. But is sufficiently easy to isolate because such specimens do belong to an endangered list.
Good luck Cheri` if you are in a quest for true love. :.:
Ok...
You DONT know.
Thats why you date him for a long time. And if he sticks around (with out getting the PHYSICAL...) then thats usually a sign that he's into you for YOU.
When a guy likes a gilr, he will make it KNOWN to her...he does that by PURSUING her.
Guys that are just after the nookie, will pursue, but they will only do it for a week or two, and they WILL ask for the nookie and get phys w/ you to TEST a girl's BOUNDARIES, to see if she says ONE thing, but does another.... so be careful what you say and do. Those guys are pretty obvious so they're easy to spot.... Good luck.
**Serious, the above applies to most males. Anywhere in the world, and at any age. Good luck.
M
A good question to ask yourself is if this guy is really a player. If he is really smooth chances are he will tell you whatever you want to hear or he may do the opposite and create a sense of controversy to peak your interest in hopes of getting some action. So how do you know if he is serious about having a relationship with you or just wants some action? Ask around. Ask different people about his past relationships. Does he make moves really fast? Does he know your last name? Is he aggressive? In the end it's up to you.