Would a woman marry another man even if she's in lube with someone else?

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I dated a girl who left her ex boyfriend of 4 years for me(they were each other's first loves). We were together for about a year and a half and we had good times. We had an intense passion for each other. We couldn't resist each other. We were in love. We even discussed getting married someday. She wanted it sooner, while I wanted to wait until I was done with college and had my career going. Recently, she broke up with me, and I found out that she got engaged to her ex while she was dating me!! Turns out she never really stopped seeing him, but she didn't want to get rid of me either. I talked to her to today and she told me that she is still in love with me, but that she can't talk to me anymore in order to make things in her current engagement work. I asked her if she really had wanted to marry me, and she said that she did at one point. She told me that reality eventually hit her and she realized that there was no way we'd make it that far (because she thought my family wouldn't allow me to marry her due to their hatred for her, and because I didn't want to get married until later in life). However, she said that she just couldn't let me go. So could a woman actually marry a man even if she truly wanted someone else? Was she waiting for a commitment from me and just took his offer because she assumed she wouldn't get it from me? And why does she still confess that she's in love with me?
-Also, I don't want her back or anything, but I also don't want her out of my life completely. I was in love with her.

Eyes Wide Open · Accepted Answer

you dont want her back, but you dont feel like giving her up completely?  what do you want her for then?  you couldnt commit to her when you had her, so you only want her where and when youre in the mood?  either make up your mind to be with her fulltime, or stop using her for whatever youre getting out of it, and let her be with someone who truly does love her.  you cant always have your cake and eat it.

Anonymous · Answer

I think there is such thing as "too small", and there's "too big" too! I've had both :) If it's anywhere around average, though, it's the "motion of the ocean" rule. If you have great chemistry with the guy and are relaxed then it doesn't really matter. If he's a jerk and makes you feel insecure, chances of a great sex life are probably nil. It's normal to be nervous. Don't give it up easily! Men need to work for it. Too many women hop into bed with a man too soon. Get to know him first, build some trust and history together and you're first time together will be great!

Gloria A · Answer

Many woman had done.  In some countries they have to married through marriage arrangement.  She is making a a big mistake so do you.  You dated her for 4 years and she probably didn't see any improvement and lost her hopes.  I think you are right, she probably thinks you will never make a decision so she is trying someone else.  Honey if you love her, don't let her go.  LOVE is very hard to find.  Maybe she still in loves with you.  That was one of my experience, I used to go with this guy for 7 years but I didn't see any improvement and I started loose interest in him.  Therefore, I started liking someone else.  Talk to her and clear the air.  If you don't want to married her, try to get her out of your life.  You can't have your cake and eat it.  Remember we re great more about the thing we don't do than the thing we do.  Now, be honest with yourself, imagine her marryng someone else how would you feel?  That would answer your question by itself.  GOD BLESS DEAR AND MY GOD GUIDE YOU TO THE RIGHT DIRECTION.

Would a woman marry another man even if she's in lube with someone else?

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