Would a woman marry one man even if she's in love with another?

I dated a girl who left her ex boyfriend of 4 years for me(they were each other's first loves but he cheated on her). We were together for about a year and a half and we had good times. We had an intense passion for each other. We couldn't resist each other. We were in love. We even discussed getting married someday. She wanted it sooner, while I wanted to wait until I was done with college and had my career going. Recently, she broke up with me, and I found out that she got engaged to her ex while she was dating me!! Turns out she never really stopped seeing him, but she didn't want to get rid of me either. I talked to her to today and she told me that she is still in love with me, but that she can't talk to me anymore in order to make things in her current engagement work. I asked her if she really had wanted to marry me, and she said that she did at one point. She told me that reality eventually hit her and she realized that there was no way we'd make it that far (because she thought my family wouldn't allow me to marry her due to their hatred for her, and because I didn't want to get married until later in life). However, she said that she just couldn't let me go. So could a woman actually marry a man even if she truly wanted someone else? Was she waiting for a commitment from me and just took his offer because she assumed she wouldn't get it from me? And why does she still confess that she's in love with me?
-Also, I don't want her back or anything, but I also don't want her out of my life completely. I was in love with her.

Sweetgirl2013-05-15T21:58:16Z

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I think she wanted a commitment from you but gave up on your so she took his offer because he was the next best thing in line. She's in love with you but she doesn't think you're serious about her. She doesn't want to waste any more time, she wants to be married now and doesn't want to wait for you anymore even though she loves you.

Rae2013-05-15T22:05:23Z

Yes. She can. I agree that she was in love with you, even though it was NOT ok that she had two relationships going. She wanted you, but she wasn't secure with you. She was looking for a serious commitment that you didn't offer, so she stopped waiting for you.

Universeone2013-05-15T22:13:13Z

You can marry with her.

Woman‘s mind are normsly passive not driving position.
She want marry with you. But you say after long duration due to your reason.
She do not trust you.
To get her , you shall take decision right now. Or let her go to others.
Or you can marry her tight now. But planning kids to hold up to you get job after study.
Then the living cost would be managable with your income plus her income.
If you love her realy, propose her right now. Then she will glad to accept it.

M2013-05-15T22:16:41Z

>she got engaged to her ex while she was dating me!!

I just can not believe what she did.
Even though she told you a long story about how much she loved you, she is just a two-timer!

Some women can be two-timers, and can say, "I love you" many times while dating other men, that is all.
Don't waste your precious life for her any more.

Margaux2013-05-15T22:00:44Z

Maybe it's just an excuse not to hurt you that much,she is just telling you that she is still in love with you so you won't be angry with her to cover her infidelity.

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