Whenever we come visit my mom & spend the night she's supeeerr rude to my husband. Like if he makes any kind of noise at night (like using the restroom) she rudely does the "SHHH" noise all dramatic when he's barely making any kind of noise! Or when our daughter misbehaves & he scolds her she starts throwing a fit, right in front of him. & when he does something that she doesn't like (that he doesn't know about) she says loudly & RUDELY, "tell Ozzy not to do this, you know I don't ****ing like that ****". She says it LOUD ensuring that he hears. Not only does she make him feel bad but she pisses me off & I always end up arguing with her telling her to stop being such a ***** for no reason. Why is she like this to him? When she first met him she was all nice to him & everything but now she's cold & it's starting to really get to me.
Anonymous2013-05-15T22:25:43Z
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Wow that sucks I bet he doesn't wanna visit her anymore.. Just talk to your mom privately and tell her you and your husband feel like she is picking on him, and if she doesn't start respecting him then you all will visit a lot less. Say to her how would you like it if his dad was rude like this to me? Maybe it's PMS or something but still it's not cool, tell her not to swear in front of her grandchild too. Who knows maybe she has a reason why she doesn't like him? Talk it out with her though to find out why and to fix it or else your husband is not going to want to visit your family anymore !
It's so unfortunately that your mother lacks respect for you and your family. Its one thing for you to subject yourself to her abuse but why drag your family into this.I will not allow my parents to have that much power over me. I just wonder have you complained about your husband to your mother? If you have than of course your mom's going to keep a checklist(mentally) of all the things you've complained about and be disrespectful towards her son-in-law. Meantime, you lose your own credibility by staying in the relationship and your daughters learning from her adults how not to behave. A mother that lacks self-respect and an extremely disrespectful grandmother. Take the bull by the horns and good luck.
Think ahead. When you visit your Mom, do you give her any present? Of course when you visit her she has to spend money for you because you will eat there. maybe she was bothered when you visit. You have to help your Mom when you visit instead of becoming a burden. Sometimes I also do not like visitor because double expenses and I do not know why the visitors do not give anything but like to grab only.