Would a woman marry a man even if she's in love with another?

I dated a girl who left her ex boyfriend of 4 years for me(they were each other's first loves but he cheated on her). We were together for about a year and a half and we had good times. We had an intense passion for each other. We couldn't resist each other. We were in love. We even discussed getting married someday. She wanted it sooner, while I wanted to wait until I was done with college and had my career going (she's 19 and I'm 20). Recently, she broke up with me, and I found out that she got engaged to her ex while she was dating me!! Turns out she never really stopped seeing him, but she didn't want to get rid of me either. I talked to her to today and she told me that she is still in love with me, but that she can't talk to me anymore in order to make things in her current engagement work. I asked her if she really had wanted to marry me, and she said that she did at one point. She told me that reality eventually hit her and she realized that there was no way we'd make it that far (because she thought my family wouldn't allow me to marry her due to their hatred for her, and because I didn't want to get married until later in life and other obstacles). However, she said that she just couldn't let me go. Then, she said it wasn't wasn't necessarily about him being the right person for her, but it was about being the right situation. So could a woman actually marry a man even if she truly wanted someone else? Was she waiting for a commitment from me and just took his offer because she assumed she wouldn't get it from me? And why does she still confess that she's in love with me?

-Also, I don't want her back or anything, but I also don't want her out of my life completely. I was in love with her.

.2013-05-16T12:54:06Z

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Yes, some people marry when they are still hung up on an ex or someone else from their past...it's quite unfair to the person they marry...

?2016-08-10T13:57:14Z

If you were not looking for one other man how did you come to FALL in LOVE with one. It's obvious that when you say you have been speaking to some different guy that you crossed the road with your conversation and began exploring other choices, you do not open that door if you're married no matter how tempting it is. You say you believe conversation is the crisis then why don't you discover a marriage counselor and work in your issues. Why are so many folks capable to throw away their marriages and households on a non permanent lustful feeling thinking they are in love. Before you make a worse mistake appear within the replicate and soul search

Anonymous2013-05-16T12:29:54Z

I would ONLY marry for love.
But I suppose it depends on the woman ... every person is an individual, you know.

Thatshim2013-05-16T12:31:52Z

you may not want her out of your life but it is the thing to do, you cant have it both ways, to answer your first question can women do this, yes they can, otherwise you are not too clear on how she explains her logic of love vs situation.