Are there really people that do not care about looks 100%?

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It's a good question. Most of us like to pretend that we're 'above' these things, and admitting to judging people based on their appearances is considered shallow, vain, and generally an undesirable characteristic. For years, I tried to convince myself that looks didn't matter to me, but who was I kidding? The reality is, a person's preferences in the appearances of a mate are actually very important for a number of legitimate reasons, and there's no point in pretending this isn't the case.

1) Satisfying physical intimacy is important for a healthy relationship, and if you're not physically turned on by your partner, your relationship will suffer. Like, are you seriously going to spend your time together imagining they're somebody else? Because that sucks for both of you.

2) There are a lot of biologically essential factors at work in finding people attractive. As a relic of a time when mating was basically determined by grunts and pheromones, we've learned that the body aims to strengthen the gene pool by attracting you toward people who will give you the healthiest children. This typically means that you're attracted to people who share a lot of common attributes with you, but are different in important ways. For example, white people with ancestry from the UK are often physically attracted to white people with ancestry from central Europe, or Scandinavia. They are genetically similar enough to strengthen immunities and other positive traits, but different enough to weed out negative traits, like susceptibility to childhood diseases, allergies, poor vision, etc. This doesn't mean that someone can't be attracted to a very ethnically different person, but basic studies have revealed that it's a lot less common. So it's not racist for a white boy to only like white girls; it's biologically hardwired in.

3) The unfortunate reality is that we aren't 'wired' to be attracted to people who have physical 'defects' consistent with genetic problems. For example, no matter how great their personalities are, we tend to find obese people unattractive for a reason: they're not likely to be healthy or carry healthy genes. Even more subtle things like having nice skin can be important factors in attractiveness. Acne is considered unattractive because it can be a sign of an underlying disease. However, when/ if the acne clears up, we can consider the person attractive again, because their body will have demonstrated that the condition is not permanent. By the opposite token, our society (for the most part) prizes characteristics that are considered healthy and fertile, like big breasts, wide hips in women, strong, athletic physiques in men. Small waists in women may be considered counter-intuitive, but the small waists help accentuate the womanly, child-bearing figure, so it all pretty much adds up.

4) Studies have demonstrated that the couples who find each other mutually attractive tend to be most compatible in long term relationships. Physical intimacy and strengthening genetics aside, hormones of attraction can be a meaningful indicator of relationship potential. An example of this is in a person's unique scent. Everyone secretes a distinct scent, mostly a result of their unique hormone production. Perfumes and deodorants can overpower this, but it's always there underneath. Have you ever gotten close to a girl and realized her body had a slightly off-putting natural smell? Or the opposite, maybe you didn't know why but found it sort of pleasant and satisfying. That's your body responding positively to that person's chemical signature, and we can't help our response. And yeah, you can fight against it, but it's there for a reason.

Basically, you're attracted to certain people for a reason, and no matter how shallow it may feel, you really shouldn't fight it....Show more

Yes, there are. There are some who really don't care about looks and some who don't care about looks but about money. Well, I fell in love with a guy. He was not obese but maybe overweight. He's looks were not attractive at all. But he was the most sweetest guy I have ever met. We are currently in a relationship. Many people asked me on dates but he was the one who captured my heart. You might say I might not be an attractive lady but like I said, I was asked by a lot of men for dates. I am also not that rich. I hope a girl will out there will fall for you and I'm very sure there is such a girl. There might be a little but are some. I would date anyone, except girls( I'm straight). All I need is loving a partner right by my side. Good luck on finding the girl of your dreams! XOXO Chloe...Show more

People are wired. But yes technically everyone has a preference because there has to be at least a bit of attraction for a relationship to work. It's possible to date someone for personality I've seen it like hideous people with really hot people but its really rare. Usually if it happens it because the personality grows on them and they some how see the person not as ugly because the personality is just that great. But for the most yes people are shallow some more than others....Show more

Looks may certainly be the original attraction. But a relationship has to depend on more than just appearance....Show more