What is it like between siblings, friends, parent to child, and spouses...?
How is emotional intimacy different from co-dependency or stuff you should only tell your therapist? Is it necessary for a romantic relationship to become serious and long-lasting?
Can people go without emotional intimacy with others? And if they can, what they like without it? Is introspection and just loving yourself good enough?
2013-08-25T23:36:49Z
Refrain from the cheesy symbolism please, I want personal experiences. But thanks for trying to help, it's just that kids can't get their hopes up for that kinda stuff.
?2013-08-25T23:54:46Z
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Well I'd say I have strong emotional intimacy with both my sisters. It's just like we totally get each other. We don't see each other often as one lives in Mexico, the other in Africa and me in the Middle East, but when we get together, it's like we've never been apart.
For example, I went to visit both of my sisters separately, and it's like we can talk about everything we want, the things we like, the things we dislike, our worries & concerns without feeling judged. We advise each other, we laugh about the same things. We can spend hours and hours together and always have some interesting thing to talk about. We're interested in doing the same things and don't really fight about anything.
Usually people don't believe we are sisters, they think we are best friends. But it's definitely not a co-dependency relationship as we have little contact except for the times we visit.
Also, the thing I like, is that we get along really well all the 3 of us together, or separately. There's no jealousy, we're happy for each other. (Of course, when we were kids, there was jealousy and more fights, but that's normal).
I also have strong emotional intimacy with my best friend. It's the same as above. We just understand each other. Never really fight, are able to solve things peacefully even when we disagree. We've traveled together on occasions, for over 1 month, in various countries and were never fed up of each other. Again, we see each other very rarely, but even after years not talking, it just restarts where we left it.
I have several relations like that.
I think to achieve this, both parties have to be comfortable with themselves (i.e. when I was younger I had many complexes and therefore couldn't appreciate my sisters fully, because I was not satisfied with myself). Also both parties have to listen and talk. Share their deeper concerns and not just talk about trivial stuff. Basically you have to trust that the other person will not misuse what you tell them, that they are there for you just as a friend, without trying to get something from you in a way or another. The other person should NOT need you to be there, and you shouldn't need that person either. You both just want to be together, enjoy each other's company and not feel upset when they take some space for themselves or find a partner, and you're not the centre of their attention anymore.
it is very hard or impossible to explain that it is like a invisible thread which is tired between you and friend that thread should be strongest so that you will never divide. it is something like this.