my lady friends or my girlfriend??

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I'm a guy, I've always been geekish. I'm the kid that spent all freshmen year alone in the cafeteria and not mysterious loner alone, I'm talking about outcast alone, the anime kids thought I was a loser. Then one day in Sophomore year the school's resident 'mean girls' decided I was somehow interesting and the eight of them have been my friends since, this was in 2004. I didn't have any 'boys' so I literally spent high school giving and forcibly receiving pedicures and manicures because 'it's so cute'. For some reason they felt I fit in with them, totally non threatening that's what their dad's said which is why I spent many a sleepover watching god awful movies. But now it's nine years later and we all still run around together we still have lunch on Sundays and we all have this brother-sisters relationship. 
        I work as an industrial installer so I have gained 'boys' mainly coworkers so I have BBQs and all that but it's still hard for me to meet women. I know my girls have love for me because they freak out if I don't call at least one of them once a week. 
       I will be honest, these girls are mean. They've made many a girl cry and a Guido. That part of them never grew out of them but they've never been rude or mean to me. I am as they say the man in their life. I'm very happy with the friendship I have with them except for their tendency to drive away other women. 
       They have this tactic where they separate us the day I introduce them, four of them will ask me about her while the others will literally make her cry. We've had our arguments... I'm always wrong. 
        But now I met this other woman and they were surprisingly nice to her, I didn't introduce them until about the 6th month of us dating, this was yesterday that my girlfriend met my girls. They were on their best behavior, very curious about her, complimenting her etc. etc. I don't know if women can communicate without communicating but my girlfriend does not like them at all and she's telling me that I need to stop having them over to my house to swim, I need to stop greeting them with a peck on the lips, and they may not shop for me or decorate my house. 
        My girls have been with me for 9 years. Everyone of their tattooed, UFC, black and white color schemed t-shirt boyfriends have called me sport or champ at some point or another and eventually totally diss me to which my girls will kick them to the curb. I feel I owe this loyalty to them because they've never left me hanging. But I am afraid that if I let this girlfriend slip away I may never find a girl. I'd be surrounded by women but I'd totally be alone again. 
      And no I cannot just sleep with all of them because at this point it would feel wrong. I can't talk to them because I know them, they're pretty but their bitches and they will definitely chase this one away. So what do I choose????

Orla C · Accepted Answer

They sound horrible. And seriously, you all hung out when you were teenagers. Time to grow up, grow a pair and move on. Ditch those bitches. 

Never left you hanging? Only because it suited them. No, if they actually cared about you, they would be supportive of your wish to have a relationship with someone you choose. And if you were in any way an adult about it, you would have made it very clear to them long before now that your love life is none of their business.

Anonymous · Answer

Your girlfriend is rightfully jealous. It's hard for her to understand the type of relationship you have with these other girls. But I think it's time for you to back always from your relationship with them some. You can make a life for yourself without them. Talk to them about it, but don't make it sound like it's all their fault. Just calmly explain the situation and say that you still love them and want to be friends, but you need to start branching out. It's time for you to be your own person. Your relationship with them seems to me like it was forged out of fear. You were alone and they accepted you so you went along. And now you're afraid that they'll hurt your girlfriend. Your girlfriend is obviously important to you and she should be. Her opinions matter. Seperate your time between them. Spend time with your girlfriend. And spend time with them. But don't let them ruin your relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

You're simply their pet.  They adopted you years ago and told you what to do.  You were their project.  It's time to let go of this juvenile relationship and work on your adult relationship with your girlfriend.  These mean girls probably won't let you go easily so you're going to have to be strong and cut it off immediately.  Eventually these mean girls will grow up, marry, have children and forget about you.  So start taking care of yourself and needs instead of their selfishness.

my lady friends or my girlfriend??

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