Please help me! I'm really depressed about my "best friend" talking behind my back!!!!?

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So I found out that she's been calling me fat, lazy, and ugly. 
A. My weight is proportionate to my height. She weighs slightly less than me but is at least 4" shorter than me. 
B. In athletics I really do try. She's the one that's always telling the coach that she "hurt her knee" just to get out of running. 
C. Well.... She's not completely wrong... But you still shouldn't say stuff like that about your best friend. 
I found out who she'd been talking to and apparently it's been going on for at least a year! I can't confront her with out crying, wanting to stab her in the face, wanting to kill myself, etc. 
After I found out I got really depressed and started considering killing myself. But obviously I didn't.
When I found out I confronted her and she "apologized" with an EXTREMELY sarcastic "sorry". And we never spoke again. 
Every time I think about it I cry because we were best friends for 8 years. Literally 2/3 of our lives.

So how do I cope with it?

Natasha · Answer

Giiiiirl, are we alike or what! I had the exact same problem! First of all, just cool down. If u keep on getting that mad and emotional every time u confront her, this isn't going to work. Just keep cool, put on ur best outfit, and ask to talk to her. She's going to be nervous, but she isn't going to show it. When u two are alone to talk, tell her about what u think. Don't start thinking of stabing her, no matter what she says. Tell her exactly what u think. And here's what my advice is. She talked behind ur back, saying things that aren't true. There are two reasons for that. One, she wanted to become close with someone else and two, she's jealous. Don't become her friend again. Yea, u might be hurt and miss her, but if she did this today, imagine what she would do next time. Tell her that u had a really good time being best friends, but now it's long enough. Tell her that she hurt u, no matter what she wanted to say. Friends support each other, and if u were a true friend, u would've told me that in private. And if this is what friends are, I'd rather not hang out with u anymore. And then just smile a really sweet smile, tell her to enjoy the rest of her life, and walk away. Girlfriend, she deserves that. Don't worry. Hang out with a group of friends, and then she'll see what you were worth to her. Good luck, and remember, Some people aren't always what they say.

Anonymous · Answer

Friendship isnt how long it lasted or if its still happening. Its what you learned from the journey. A true friend will Never hurt you.

Friends come and go - lebron james.

Anonymous · Answer

Try getting a new friend.  I know you must miss her friendship, but a true friend wouldnt do such a thing.. Remember: these moments remind us whos really there for us.

Anonymous · Answer

a lot of people do that. Find someone who doesn't, you don't need that in your life and I know it sucks! It actually happened to me the other day. You don't need that negativity find someone who is an ACTUAL best friend.

? · Answer

Atleast you got to know before it got worse. It's better to have no friends instead of having fake ones. I'm sure you'll find better friends than her. Go out, socialise, and you'll find new better people!

Please help me! I'm really depressed about my "best friend" talking behind my back!!!!?

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