Guys, how long is too long to wait for sex? Girls, how long would you make your guy wait?

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Ok so I've been in a relationship for 2 1/2 yrs. There's been no sex. It was fine at first but I'm growing quite tired of porn and rubbing one(s) off!! I've been quite frustrated with relationships lately and I'm thinking that's a huge part of why. Sex has never been my main focus, but the fact that it takes me damn near begging sometimes to even get my c**k touched, is getting irritating. No bj's or nothing like that. Yet, my gf likes me to finger her sometimes. Which the ration of me fingering to her rubbing it off is somewhere along the lines of about 95%.

First relationship, all my ex wanted was sex. This relationship, there is no sex. She wanted to wait till marrige but I don't know if I can wait another 3 or 4 yrs after she goes to and completes graduate school. I'm 21, shes a few yrs older.

I'm questioning very often if i don't want to even be in relationships anymore. And try to enjoy myself. We see eachother every evening after classes till about 10 or 11pm. After that, its to bed. Same routine everyday. I'm getting quite bored.

Is it wrong for me to want to end a relationship partially because theres no sexual aspect? Also, answer the title questions guys and gals. Thanks

Marvelous Menu · Accepted Answer

Find another girl. Waiting won't make it any better. She may have another boyfriend. Dump her.

MoneyMen · Answer

2 1/2 years???   LOL   I'd say you're about 27 months late with this question.  When I was single, it was generally the 3 date rule.   But sometimes it would take 4 or 5.

The whole 'wait until marriage' thing is a little nutty -- you want to know if you enjoy sex with someone before you marry them!   And why would a 21 year old want to rush off and get married anyway?  You shouldn't be even thinking about that, you should be exploring different relationships.

If I were you I'd be out finding a new girlfriend.

Aly · Answer

understand your point of view. First off, you have to give credit to yourself for being a faithful, respectful and loyal boyfriend. Many men in your position would probably get the deed from other women. Sex is an emotional need to both men and women. As much as your girlfriend wants to abstain from having sex until marriage, does not mean she doesn't want sex. She wants it just as much as you, but she is not letting her values get in the way of that. I know it is tough right now, but you can also communicate to her more on how you're feeling about this. Either she will agree to have sex with you, or you will just have to wait a bit longer. If she's worth it, you'll wait for her. And if you truly love her, you won't end the relationship just because of this. Or you can simply as her if you two can compromise on some things. Again, a relationship is not all about sex, but it is a big portion of it. Being able to be intimate with someone you love is a special thing and brings both of you closer together. Good luck.

Anonymous · Answer

You need to realize that she isn't trying to torture you. Wanting to wait until marriage is a personal choice and probably means a lot to her. It is wrong to end a relationship because of that, but it isn't wrong to end a relationship because you don't love her. Because it doesn't sound like you do. Relationships are give and take, and about making the other person happy. If you truly love her then you'll realize she's worth the wait, if not, take a break from relationships, get all of your hormones out on some other women and maybe along the way you'll find a woman who you will see is worth the wait. Maybe all it'll take is being apart from your current girlfriend to realize what's actually important. Good luck.

Dtime · Answer

It is some what wrong to end a relationship simply because of no sex. However, if your girlfriend doesn't please you sexually.. but she allows you to sexually please her (fingering) then yes she is being selfish. I'm surprised that you dated her for two years with no sex. Being at your age you need to experience sexually (safely) for your best interest because you realize by experience that this person is the one for you. As wrong as it sounds.. sex is a big part of a relationship. If your girlfriend wants to wait until marriage ( if its a religious thing) then you should respect her wishes. However, you really have to decide. No sex for 5 years and have a really boring sex life? Or go out with women who are into having sex. The pro to staying in this relationship is that if you truly love your girlfriend now.. it will be worth the wait by destroying her (sexually) when its time. The con to this is that you will have to wait until she graduates/married then have sex and find out that man maybe she isn't the right women for me. Basically eliminating all chances of meeting the perfect girl who loves being pleased and loves pleasing you sexually at the same time. Hope this helps.

Anonymous · Answer

You should respect her wishes to wait till marriage, it isn't the same for girls as it is for men & obviously its frustrating but if ur bored of ur routine sex isn't gna make it any better?  Nd are you gna marry her cuz if ur not you can probably say bye to sex.  You should never find ur relationship boring with or without sex, sex is an addition to a relationship it isnt what makes a relationship

Guys, how long is too long to wait for sex? Girls, how long would you make your guy wait?

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