Why does my ex pop up every few years or so? Women please?

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I live in Connecticut. I dated this girl in Florida when I lived there ohhhh 20 years ago or so. She moved with me back to CT in 95.She had nothing nor anyone in FL.  My family couldnt stand her and from what i gathered from my friends she would have no problem cheating on me then. I broke it off and she went back to Florida. 

About 10 years ago she contacted me through facebook. Not really "hitting on me" if you will but flirting in a way. Said she got married changed her name hated her life etc. WE were supposed to meet up but I never went through with it. I was in a relationship at the time.

Just yesterday, there she is again with the high how have you been what have you been up to?
Supposedly was married and divorced again. I answered her back in respect told her what ive been up to and my situation now. This time she is not asking if im involved with anyone or flirting ....yet. I said wow its been like 20 years do u still look the same. And there it is BOOM naked pic emails everywhere. She is very attractive, im in a relationship for 3 years now. My girl is beautiful and I love her so nothing is going to come of this. I just dont get y she keeps popping up now and then. Im thinking shes in a bad point in her life and is digging deep going back to an x of over 20 years.

Any opinions would be much appreciated. Sorry for the long A$$ story. ohh im 45 if it means anything

Kimberly · Accepted Answer

Maybe she keeps coming back because she knows you are always gonna be there for her in some way

MomentarySparkles · Answer

I have an old boyfriend who keeps doing this same thing to me! Last time I saw him was when I was 18, and right now I am 35. Every few years that guy will email me (though he did somehow find my cell number about a decade ago and actually called - I no longer have that number now.) I have moved several times through a few states, have married, had a kid, and all that. I am WELL over and past that guy.

He apparently never married but had two kids.

I guess the only reason I can come up with for why he still contacts me is that he looks back on our teenage relationship with rose colored glasses. I think because his relationships haven't worked out he just pops up when he's feeling low, somehow thinking there's some old spark there.

The last time he contacted me I finally asked him flat out why he keeps doing it, because I really have nothing to say to him and I don't feel nostalgic about the past. I'm truly happy and have no desire to look backwards. I never got a response to that, but who knows if in a few years he'll show up again.

Why does my ex pop up every few years or so? Women please?

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