He want to separate but dosent want to leave .. Please help !!?
We are having problems , I told him that either we work it out or separate, he rather separate, taste the waters n see what happen... (bunch of bs to me)... but still want to live in the same house ...
I can't handle that. I love him,..
So I left, I have been at my moms for 2 days now, l left without saying anything,
today he text me : I want you home ...
We have been married ( 7 years)
Is he sending mixed signals ??? Should he be the one to get out ??? I really don't want to leave my house... We got it together... Please help!!!
The Original GarnetGlitter2014-02-14T18:48:00Z
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I commend you...this break thing to test the waters in a marriage is bull shee-ot. he wants to boff other women and if nothing comes along 'better' than you...he want to be able to return to you and resume life as usual....
Tell me, did you suggest that while he was 'testing the waters'....that you would be taking a swim or two yourself?
Maybe you should have....that would have punched a hole in his water wings, I am sure....
Return home and put it on the line....only cowards run from their problems. If he wants a separation, then fine...it will be a separation in preparation for a divorce and he can leave since it's HIS idea....and the reality is, the home is marital property, you BOTH hold an interest in it and only a family court judge can and will decide if it's sold or one of you keeps it on the condition of buying out the other's interest in it...that's how it works.
He is forgetting that he is a married man. There is no water to taste.. He must be getting the so called 7 year itch (which is a total crock of an excuse to fool around) He sounds as though he wants to frost his cake and eat it too.. But now you have to wonder what he did in the time you were staying at your moms!?
Thanks for your honest response to my question, I have a lot to think about. I am sorry for the situation that you are in. However, I agree with you. If your husband wants to push for a separation rather than working things out, he should be the one to leave. Hopefully he has gained some perspective in the last few days without you. If you decide to separate, try to have a heart to heart with him and establish some ground rules, and limitations. I, sincerely, hope everything turns out well for you.
Well tell him you aren't coming home unless he's going to work things out. It would be insane for you to live in the same place while he dates other women.