My husband was unfaithful to me with a co worker , I put him out of the house , cont .. Please read all...?
I put my husband out of the house due to infidelity,a few days ago, now he saying that he will continue to pay my rent if I keep his teenager son that was living with us in the the house, I'm thorn !!! I can't stop asking his son about his father...and I also don't think is healthy for him to still live with me... Living on my own will b a pain since money is an issue , I will need to get roommates, but I can't just sit and babysit while he is out there having the live.... Any advise ??? :-((
?2014-02-21T17:39:56Z
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his son is not your concern, just get room mates. plus, if he is paying rent, he then has something to hold over you, and you never want that.
So basically you are torn because he is the one financially supporting you and you still have feelings for him? Well which pain is worse? dealing with a cheater or having to find money for rent? If having the son around is going to make it harder for you to move on, then let him deal with his son and you find a room mate to help with rent. Or you can find another place with lower rent. Or live with family? Or live with a friend for a short time?
But if you think the pain of rent is worse, then bite the bullet keep his son for a couple more months or a designated time and when you think you are ready to manage the rent by yourself, then tell him take his son back.
It boils down to which you prefer emotional pain or physical/financial pain. I personally prefer the financial pain because that could be solved much faster than the emotional pain. Having a man hold money over your head as bait is as bad as it gets. He is thriving on you being dependent/in need of his money. The fast you can show him you don't need his rent the better!
If you can't stop asking his son about his father(your husband) then that means he isn't an infant. Roommates is a bad idea because too many things can go wrong, that much you can count on. Once you calm down and you're no longer mad at your husband odds are you will go back. Could you handle him going out with different women. That's something you need to prepare yourself for especially if he gets serious about someone else. You did tell him to get out so it's bound to happen sooner or later. My husband cheated on me with a co-worker I wanted him out of my life. I could no longer stand the sight of him I was so hurt and angry. I didn't want him to touch me but what was more important I didn't want that skanky co-worker to have him. I let my husband stay, this way he got to see everyday just how much he had hurt me. He did everything he could to prove his love and how very sorry he was.
What your husband did to you is so wrong on so many levels but just remember he had that skank telling him how wonderful he is day in and day out. Everyone knows that men are weak, don't get me wrong that's still no excuse for cheating.
Well how old is his son? I think depending on his age, it's the fathers responsibility to support his son and keep a roof over his head. Does he have any other family that he could stay with? I understand It's not the son's fault that your husband cheated, if he's under 18, then I would let him stay until your husband find a place of his own if not you should let your husband figure out what he want to do with his son.
Take his son to his grandmother or mom or uncle and just be gone. This man is history and I have been there. Your the one you need to work on. In prayer ask Jesus for your true spouse to come into your life. But for now be good to his son but tell him his father is a blockhead and you need to move on. Tell the son you will be in touch and send him cards. But do not inquire about the dad. Move in with a roomate and date, and go to church. This is no place for you what so ever, and this man is a cad.