I married a really pretty woman. She has a cute figure, long blond hair, pretty face, great laugh. She is smart, funny, tender, generous.
But, she is really high maintenance. I have to compliment her all the time, never criticize her, take care of her feelings. I am no peach myself - she has her problems with me. But, is she typical for an attractive woman?
Has this been your experience too?
The Distraction Potential of Certainty
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Yeah, some more than others, it really depends on what sort of external praxis a woman is locked into as their preferred paradigm.
It almost sounds like if you have someone that has poor self-esteem, they require a lot of coddling as far as their looks are concerned.
I always thought for certain that my wife would never marry a plain white boy like me, I guess it really helps if one has a realistic self-assessment of one's own relative appearance, it's counter-productive to gauge one's own looks or the looks of their partners by using an arbitrary sliding scale of other people, (with correspondingly different chronological ages/maturity, etc.) whose looks may be readily apparent, yet their personality flaws typically remain well hidden from discovery from anyone but one's closest associates.
I've known a few people in the distant past who only remained with certain people because they wanted to impress their friends and were less concerned with developing a mutually beneficial relationship with a mature person within a stone's throw of their own generation, I chose an older woman because I wanted someone who was ready to settle down, I wasn't interested in a disco-bunny, (club-addicted) girlfriend.
I think if one puts enough thought into it, one need not settle for someone borderline nauseating in appearance when categorically someone might be tempted to locate a person who by sheer necessity was forced by facial genetics to focus on refining what they could......, their personality.
Gary C
You must be a young guy.
By the time you're my age, you'll probably realize that ALL wives and girlfriends are pretty high maintenance.
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Malissa! :D
hahahaha! It sounds like you have a problem with just being a respectful and loving husband in general. That isn't high matience...that is just your wife expecting you to treat her right and to respect her feelings. O.O
Anonymous
Shouldn't you have known this about her before you married? Maybe she wants attention, have a date night or something.