Hey husband is cheating on me with a co worker, but he denying everything .....continue ....?
He said that they are just friends. I put him out of the house a few weeks ago , and he have been sleeping at work... Yesterday after hours I saw her car parked near his job, at a time when she had no business there... ( very late at night) sadly I have no access to get in to his job. But I wanted to bust out windows . Scratch his car etc.... I was sooooo mad ... Today I'm just sad... Should I confront him about it hoping that he finally come clean, confront her, or just plain simple go and bust his car out,????? I'm 36 years old, I want to b a lady about all this, but I'm so pissed at the fact that he can't come clean... I think he dosent want to divorce be for financial reasons, otherwise we would , we separated 3 weeks ago.... Pease help
Howard2014-03-10T04:30:10Z
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he will never come clean to you because cheats never want to admit to their SINS.... Pain is something no-one can help you with BUT maybe the best way to go about things is to look for positives for you which act as negatives for him..... IF money is his worry then you need to get clever.... By putting him out of the house you have given him freedom and power and maybe even the sympathy vote... i know it is tough but you need to get smart...TURN all that anger into ways to save yourself at his expense... Unfortunately i don't know enough about your situation to help any further... You keep saying you want him to come clean..... Get it clear he will not do that unless it is to his benefit or things reach a point where he would say things to hurt you.....EITHER way does it matter...!!! Get beyond that... Good Luck
You suspect that your husband is carrying on with another woman You have never caught him red handed . You have only seen her car near his office. With this how can you jump into the conclusion that your husband is keeping this woman. If you want to be a lady you must act like a lady .You must have conclusive evidence to prove that there is an unholy relationship between the two. According to your husband it is only a friendship To clear your doubt better meet her , give a self introduction and ask her what business she has with your husband. Based on her explanation you can decide what action is to be taken. Now that you have separated before going for a legal separation give him one more chance. First cut off the finance that you provide him.Meet him with an elderly relation of yours or a lawyer and discuss the matter with him. If you could come to a conclusion that there is an extra martial relationship file legal action. See what short comings are there on your part .Are you making him sexually satisfied or have you taken things for granted that you are a lady of 36 and sex is a secondary matter. Giving him money alone is not sufficient sex is equally important to maintain a balanced family life.
I can say this: If I wasn't cheating and had been kicked out of the house "for cheating" for three weeks, you'd see her car out front every night! At this point what's the harm...he's paying the penalty for cheating so he might as well enjoy the crime. You didn't list a shred of evidence to defend your position that he's cheating, but I assume you have something. If he's been gone three weeks now and you really, really think he's cheating then file for divorce and be done with it. Breaking out the windows or anything like that is going to cause you more pain. It's very sad this happens, but you need to pick up the pieces and move on now.
Once a cheater always a cheater move on and move on fast!!! I got drug thur the mud for ten years trying to care and forgive my exwife. What I realize is how can a person love you if they loving someone else. Not trying to make it worst but if anything you guys need to talk as grow folks not as kids because those childish games are for the bird. For real
you may not wish to hear this as I didn't when it happened to me but if you suspect hes cheating then chances are he most certainly is hun sorry but I think you already know this x x good luck