Ok so heres the story. I purchased a Dog for my daughter this past christmas. I generally was never a animal person because I have allergies but i managed to find a Hypo-Allergenic dog (Bishon Frise) as time progresses I am noticing that we as a family cannot keep up on the dog as much as we like. For example he is behind on his shots, he spends hours a day at home by himself, Not getting as much exercise as he should and not being groomed as much as he should.
My wife has not been working for about a year now and we are starting to fall behind on the bills a lot. I managed for find someone who wants to adopt him and is willing to pay $400 for the the re-homing fee. I told my wife the situation that I think its best we let the dog go to a family where he can be taken care of better. She was outraged! told me I am selfish, how do I explain this this to our daughter, my family are going to yell at me if I get rid of him (keep in mind I paid for the dog)
My question is am I wrong for wanting the dog to go to a better home? am I the one wrong here or is my wife in the right?
2014-03-14T22:55:56Z
My daughter is very young 5 years old.
Star_of_Darkness2014-03-15T03:46:08Z
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Why shoudl she throw the dog away because you want to sell it like a selfish human being?
Nice lesson to teach the child, you don't want the dog and want the money so you want to pressure every one into getting rid of the poor thing. Your kid and wife will both rightfully hate you for the rest of yoru exsitance . Its a living being, not a TV you can sell on a whim
Its as simple as every one stop making excuses and TAKE care of the dog. The 'I dont have time' is a lame excuse
" She was outraged! told me I am selfish, how do I explain this this to our daughter, my family are going to yell at me if I get rid of him "
She's right. You ARE selfish
You can easily cut the bills by getting rid of things you dont need like cable and net and the like. But luxury items are clearly more important to you then the dog or your child's happiness.
I'm not getting between husband and wife, but frankly if she's at home, how-come the dog is spending hours on his own? That doesn't make sense. Taking a dog out for a good walk costs nothing either!! I'm assuming the booster costs/grooming etc. is down to your financial situation, so on that basis alone, if the dog isn't getting the medical attention he must have (not doing the vaccination every year isn't vital apart from rabies and leptospirosis which must be done annually, rabies legally) then yes, it would be best to find him a new home where his needs can be met. Don't look at money for him first - the right home is the most important thing ...... and I'd submit him to Bichon Frise Rescue as they will vet prospective homes, so he doesn't start going from home to home, as often happens, especially with males, and if he's been neglected and his training has lapsed!
In other words, I think you are right, and perhaps your wife is wrong, much as she may have her own reasons going on here ...... It always has to be a joint decision.
At this age, the dog is too young to breed so don't this time if that is what you want to do. She should be at least 2 years old. Who is taking care of the dog? It sounds like it needs some training and is at the age to do so. A good obedience class will take care of the barking problems. I use to breed champion dachshunds back in the 70's, and it is not an easy job. Your dog is at the age where if you really want to get good pups from her, she needs to start being shown in dog shows. This will attact the best studs. If you not going to do that, then I recommend you get the dog spayed which will calm her down and make her a great pet. If you expect your wife to clean up after the dog, take her for walks and such, then I think you need to meet her at least half way have the dog spayed. Also, unless your showing the dog, it is not a money making operation to breed the dog for the puppies because of the stud fees, vet bills, keeping the pups, finding new owners, etc.
RE: My Wife does not want to get rid of our Dog? Ok so heres the story. I purchased a Dog for my daughter this past christmas. I generally was never a animal person because I have allergies but i managed to find a Hypo-Allergenic dog (Bishon Frise) as time progresses I am noticing that we as a family cannot keep up on the dog as much as we like....