I think I'm going crazy. My husband want total freedom ...please help?

We have been having problems for a couple of years. All kind of problems.and we got to the point where we started sleeping in different rooms for about 1 week, now..during that time he started acting different. So I went trough his phone and saw some emails that where kind of inappropriate between him an a co worker. So he told me that was going to stop.He proceeded to block his phone. Abt 3 days later he told me he had a late meeting . It was kind of fishy to me so I drove by his office and I saw the girl parked there ( it was 10:30 at night) .i whent crazy, came back home n put his clothes out... He was out for 3 weeks.. He came home .very now and then but we only argued. But I miss him so much. I see that he is enjoying his freedom. He is out getting drunk etc. He got married at 17,and have been married since. I want to think that he is going through an early mid live crisis.he is 34. He worked with all men, but now there is a group if new faces ( girls) his age at work and he is all exited because he have new friends they go drinking together , I think it's totally inappropriate but he dosent see it that way, I'm thorn because it seem like he rather be about in the streets , but I don't want to kick him back up because I feel that if he is out completely,, I will loose him. And now he is saying that fe want an open relationship. Wth!!!This is so that if something ever happen ( on his side) we won't gave any problems. I'm going crazy over this. He said he want to miss me

DevilDoll2014-03-19T17:35:33Z

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At some point, one of his trysts with the girl(s) at work will go awry, and then he will see where his bad decision-making got him. He thinks he has missed out on a plethora of poonanny, but he will soon find out that he is missing out on his family. By that time, it will be too late. But to be quite honest, he sounds really selfish and you are probably better off without him in the long run.

boj2014-03-19T23:53:03Z

You cant have this the way you want it. Your husband has already told you that he wants to sleep around & to keep him you will have to go along with it. No one can help you with that.

You have to decide what you want for YOU.... Do you want him under those circumstances or do you want a man who is dedicated & only wants to be with you? Make the decision either stick with him or put him out again & file for divorce.

Patricia2014-03-20T06:42:22Z

Maybe let him know you have a sexual date with another man this weekend. He said he wants an open relationship.... i bet he will change his mind about the open relationship when you tell him the news.

I'm serious.

Coach Simon2014-03-19T23:42:53Z

I suggest you both read Dr Phil McGraw's excellent book, Relationship Rescue. (I wish I got commission, as I recommend it to so many people!). As he writes in the book, it’s not only for people whose relationships are in trouble.

ezza2014-03-20T00:04:20Z

Kick his assshole out. Gain back your sanity..freedom my assshole.

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