My husband doesn't understand...on how to arouse me?

This is an embarrasing question...but I hope you can help me.
My husband is the only man I have ever been with.
I love him. I love his smell. I am attracted to him.
He is attracted to me, but he never wants to have...sex? Because he says he is tired. I understand, but still. He is a good lover. He is affectionate and everything, but...I am aroused differently than him.
I love Kinky stuff. Being tied up arouses me...like...it is the only thing that does arouse me...strangely.
He talks dirty to me, and talks bad to me, to make me feel aroused...but it isn't always enough.
Sex is painful for me, because I am not aroused enough.
I am afraid to tell him, because I don't think he will listen.
I have told him that being kinky really turns me on, and he tires...but he is'nt giving his 100%
How do I get him to understand???
He thinks doing anything drastic that would turn me on...is cruel?

2014-05-16T01:00:27Z

*tries, I meant.
I think because being kinky doesn't turn him on, he doesn't understand so...he doesn't really try....

?2014-05-16T02:12:02Z

Favorite Answer

Why can you open you legs but you can't open your mouth?

COMMUNICATE! If you can't talk to each other open and honestly about your relationship including what you want from sex, what on earth are you doing married to each other?

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northcut2016-12-12T10:25:57Z

Arouse Husband

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?2014-05-16T01:40:22Z

Well I think he is not the problem it's you problem to get turn on by him you have a low libido besides your brain dOes not release the hormons to turn u on you guys don't have the chemistry to each other to perform a great sex. You guys love each other as a couple and friends but that's all
But you guys don't have the spark to make the explosion and it never Will happen
You guys are not one to each other in bed at the end some you are kinky but with low libido eventually you will cheat on him or viceversa

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Anonymous2014-05-16T05:54:20Z

If you cannot communicate openly with your husband, then your marriage is a sham.
YOU have to tell HIM what you need.
It starts with yhou.

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?2014-05-16T02:16:22Z

Start by giving him head, we all love that, so he,s now turned on then ask him to give you head so your turned on or start with a 69 for a bit. or play with yourself a while first

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