how to not get bothered seeing my ex at work?

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Hey everyone so recently I've started working at the same place my ex works because it pays well and close by. We've been apart for half a year now and I still have some feeling a for her just not strong like before

We dated for 1 and 3/4 of a year and broke up from to much arguing. My problem is that I really loved her the time we were in the relationship. We were both our first sex partners and had a great relationship till it turned sour.

At work I see her talk to guys, and at my workplace, UPS, men are hounds I know what they want,  and i know she has dated and had sex with a few of them cause she told me whenever she drove me to work. Stuff I didn't want to hear. I understand we're not dating but I didn't want to hear that stuff.

How can I not get jealous when I see her talking to a dude knowing they're flirting with her and just want to have sex with her? I know I shouldn't and I'm trying to let it not get to me but I cared for her so deeply It's hard to not get bothered

grrandram · Answer

How not to get bothered seeing your ex at work is to not get a job with your ex, but since that logic didn't come to you, then I wouldn't ride to work with her. But since you do, I wouldn't talk to her about her personal life.  I wouldn't ask about other guys and if she wanted to volunteer information, I would tell her to stop and say I have no interest and don't want to hear it.  You're a glutton for punishment.  You don't like what you see, but you're looking for it, encouraging it too. So what if you cared for her back then? It's over now and she's part of your past.  If you cared so much, why didn't you make it work? She has moved on.  Why don't you?  Stop living in the past. Daydreaming about the time you loved her.  She's not the last girl on Earth.  So how not to be bothered about seeing your ex is to find somebody new and not somebody you work with either.  Somebody outside of work.

how to not get bothered seeing my ex at work?

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