Friend Making Dumb Decisions and Taking Advice Personal?
I have a friend I have known since high school. Anyways, Im getting tired of pretending her lifestyle and her choices are great. To where I gave her my opinions and how I feel on the phone yesterday. First of all, it started when she got pregnant by this married man. She disowned me even for a year just over advice because of that situation. Now, we are talking again. I have kept my mouth shut for a long time. But, she was complaining to me over her Mom giving her advice. I told her she tends to take peoples advice to personal. I gave her an example of how she choose to disown me over advice once and how that was not right.
She is with this guy that has no car. He is using her car all the time. Now he is answering her cell phone. And when she was due at any moment. He was getting plastered to where he was in no condition to drive. That way she can make it to the hospital safely while in labor. When I would speak to her about that. She choose his side over mine. Here she is a 40 year old woman. She is with some 25 year old guy. She is acting like her actions are ok. And acting as if its ok for her to be treated the way she has been.
Also, when she calls. It feels like she automatically ask me judgemental questions. Like this. "So what are do you doing." I respond with oh nothing much. She will say "So your just sitting around" I feel accused of something or judged. Along with her questions of why I dont work. Here I am thinking atleast I dont get knocked up by married men.
I just sometimes wonder if I should cut my losses with this friendship. At times, she acts like a teenager. I feel like she has not grown up. And I do not like the values or direction she is heading in.
Also to add one more thing. She acts scared of him. Anytime, you talk to her on the phone he is always around. He listens to her conversations. She acts like she no longer has confidence when he is around. But, if he is not around she acts normal on the phone like she is not scared.