I need to stop being so jealous and comparing with other people(I'm a girl)?

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It is just so sad. Example, I compare myself with other girls bases on how big their boobs are. If it's smaller than mine, I feel good and I scoff at them- and then I see Carly , who's this way popular red head(like, she is so pretty: bit.ly/1tw2V3z) and I feel bad again. She isnt the only girl I compare to.

I also compare myself to Megan Parken(youtuber) and she's 18. I'm THIRTEEN. And she showed this video feautring these kids with their own businesses. I'm into business/economics to, so I feel that need to compete with them- especially that girl featured in it, whose 13 and shes selling these indigo dyed shirts. I look down on her:"oh, your so dumb, you need to know how to compete with other business, you wannabe" It's bad.

There's this other youtuber- bunnybell07- she's two years yonger than me. And she's rich, she's popular, it just seems like she has everything I don't have! Plus she's younger than me. That's a threat.

And theres this girl in my grade that was being so mean to me last year. Last year I wanted to be popular b/c ppl thought I was a freak(i just wanted respect I later found out). I think I got past the popularity thing, but that girl now has all these friends. I wanted friends that I could go somewhere after school with- she has that. She fits in with those people I awkwardly tried to be friends with last year. I just get sad when I see her with her friends waiting right next to her locker. I want those friends. And I do have friends- only one.

Ann · Answer

Hello there :) Hon dont be jealous.I,for example,I dont have large boobs and I also get sad when someone has them bigger than mine.But when you like something about the others that you dont have,try to find your advantage there.Tell yourself "she has big boobs,I have a big butt.And dont compare yourself to those youtubers,you can be one as well!! Im gonna start my youtube channel after I'll be done with college exams,Honey you must act and work in order to reach success.And if you want friends,they key is to be nice with EVERYONE,even if you dont like them from the first sight.If you meet a new girl at a party start talking with her,be friendly and joke,after some time ask her if she has a facebook,then after few days message her.After all being popular means having lots of friends and knowing almost everyone.And yes dont compare yourself to that red head..she's not that pretty to be jealous of :)
I wish you good luck,Message me if you need more help ^_^

AzzboLeMighty · Answer

Ahhhh the joys of being young. I was once like you. I had no friends throughout primary and school and about 2-3 in the early years of high school. And honestly, there was this guy that I absolutely hated. He was better than me in every way. Better at sports, better in lessons, better looking. He was dating the girl I wanted. And I tried so hard to compete with him and each time failed miserably. I always wanted to be rich too. But I could never get a job.

Anyways, in about Year (Grade in some countries) 10 I stopped trying to constantly fit in with people and stopped trying to be better than that guy. And people liked me for it. They liked me for who I was, the real me. I ended up with a large group of friends who I still see and hang out with despite finishing school. I started college and that guy is in the same college as me and I'm now more popular than him. One more year and I can go to uni and hopefully get a job of £75,000 a year.

So just be yourself and do what you want to do. People will like you for it more, and you won't be constantly compaeting with others.

I need to stop being so jealous and comparing with other people(I'm a girl)?

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