Can anyone give me some insight?

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A few years ago I would have said that my sister was my best friend.  We talked almost every day on the phone, and it seemed like every weekend or so I was either going to her house for dinner and a DVD or going out with her to a museum, a concert, etc.  But we both fell on hard times.  I lost my source of income, and she had to take a job that required her to travel and needed help with her 3 children.  So I moved in with her.  About a month later she stopped talking to me, and I've never known why.  She won't say.

I even went to therapy over it, and my therapist says that it's some kind of power trip for her.  My other sister says she was a mean girl in school, the kind who never had anything to say to a long list of people that she didn't like for whatever reason.

Has anyone had to cope with a family member who refused to talk to you?  Did you ever find out why?  How did you get the person to start talking to you again?  Or did you have to just write that person out of your life?

BigOrlandoNerd · Accepted Answer

Some people are very isolated and isolating. I think your counselor is right and it is sad for you to see her do this.  It sorta demonstrates a true lack of emotional connection on her part and an inability to be empathetic.  I don't know how to get the relationship kick started and you likely need to protect yourself and set boundaries with her, as in, if you can't be civil then... (you'll have to move and then where does her support for her kids go). So do everything you can to get back on your feet. You don't want to spend the rest of your life merely "weathering your circumstances". Not saying it is going to be easy, but find some peace and courage to pursue the life you were meant to live.  Peace, g.

Dee in CO · Answer

I have asked her many, many times.  But not to worry, I think I may have stumbled onto what the problem is and what the solution might be.  It's true, though.  She just stopped talking to me, without any explanation.  Sounds like you've never experienced anything like this, so I don't know how helpful you can be.

Igbo Naija Kwenu! · Answer

Are you sure you and her never argued about ANYTHING? Also how is it that, according to you, you moved in with your sister and now she suddenly out of the blue starts giving you a cold shoulder? Yea...doesn't sound realistic.Or why don't you just ASK her what the hell her issue is? You can edit your question or reply my answer.

Can anyone give me some insight?

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