I think my best friends are takling behind my back?

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I have 2 best friends. They're not mean to me but they seem to act like they don't want me to be around them. They always start conversations about stuff that i don't know so I can't really join in. And they always go like "remember when blablabla happened" and talk about stuff that happned while i wasn't with them. I feel like they are trying to make me feel left out on purpose. And I tried making plans with them every single weekend and they always make up some lame excuse. Then I find out that they hung out together.  Either they post a pic on instagram or my friend spots them at the mall. That's how i find out. I'm just sick of it. If they don't wanna be friends then they should tell me instead of using me as a 3rd wheel. I'm not 100% sure that they're talking behind my back though.  I caught 1 of them staring at me once. It was kind of like a blank but mean stare. It made me feel all awkward. I can't deal with this any longer and I don't know what to do.

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First off, this situation might not be as serious as you think it is. Having conversations you don't know much about, or talking about things that happened when you weren't around doesn't mean that they hate you. It might not be a conscious descion to leave you out, but it definitely is a bit fishy.

I've been in the position of your two friends before. Me and another one of my friends had this one friend who was always clinging to us. Normally, I would have just tolerated it, but this girl was controlling and isolating and whenever I was with her, I felt I could have no other friends. It was pretty serious in my opinion. I'm not saying that you're all these horrible things, but I'm just telling you my experience.

It was really hard to tell her that I didn't want to talk to her anymore, especially because I didn't want to cause tons of drama and drag in all these other friends. Similarly, your friends might have those types of reasons for not telling you how they feel. In my opinion, by ignoring you and blowing you off, they've already told you how they feel so I think its time to step away and find some friends who will treat you properly.

If they never intended to leave you out, they'll worry about it once you've gone and then they'll try to patch things up with you. If not, they did not want to be your friend.

Mario A. R · Answer

Just stop talking to them or talk to them how you feel. Each time visit my friends house I felt a  energy that they didn't wont me  there so I stop talking to my friends about 2 moth ago.

I think my best friends are takling behind my back?

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