Need advice on my girlfriend. I feel like she always puts her friends first than me. I sent her these chocolates and flowers for our monthsary and she didn't even say thank you. Meanwhile, I have an ex who says she wants me back. She kept on adding me on Facebook and sending me letters. My ex was the one who broke up with me and left me broken hearted until I found my girlfriend. One night my girlfriend was staying up late partying with her friends and I found myself thinking of my ex. I don't want to think of her, but then I began appreciating that she gives me attention today and the effort she puts up. But I'm not in love with my ex anymore. I'm in love with my now girlfriend but I wish she can show more dedication to our relationship like the desire my ex is showing me today. What can I do? And why are girls like that? You show her love, she dosent appreciate you and treats you like ****, but when you're no longer in love with her, she wants you....????
Kylie2015-04-06T08:02:58Z
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She's an ex for a reason right? Even though she dumped you, she no longer wanted you at one point. I wouldn't go back to her, but you should have a talk to your girlfriend about how you feel, she may not mean to do it, see what her views our on it. It's totally normal to think about your ex if she is given you attention and your girlfriend isn't. Explain to your girlfriend that you feel you should spend more time with her or whatever.
Ok, you're asking for advice but then you put girls on blast. Please stop. You MUST realize that some men are like this too. I know that for a fact. Some men and some women. Maybe some people are the way that they are because they've been hurt too many times, I don't know. You need to tell your girlfriend how you feel. Make a list of all the good and bad that she has done. If nothing changes, you know what you need to do. However, you didn't say how long you two have been together. It may be that she just doesn't want to come across as needy and clingy and she wants to show you that she does have a life other than you. I don't know. Communication is the key.
Just because you've met two girls doesn't mean all girls are like that.
but anyway, you'll be pleased to hear that your problem has a simple solution. Talk to your GF about how you feel. Don't mention your ex though, at least, not in this conversation.
"[GF], I'm in love with you and I want our relationshp to work. But I'm starting to feel like you don't feel the same way. I felt very hurt when you didn't say thank you for the flowers I sent you, and I also feel like I don't matter as much when you hang out with your friends all the time and not me. I really want to work things out so we can be on the same page."
You can modify the script a bit but basically, dude if you feel bad, let your GF know. If she's with you, assume the best and she wants to make you happy. But if she doesn't know you are unhappy, she can't help. If talking to her reveals that she doesn't seem interested in making you happy, or is only putting her own needs first, then move on. Good luck.
It is best to seek legal advice !! . Are you in the position to take custody of your son ?? If you dont smoke weed, then you already have a one up on her. She doesnt sound like she should even be a mother. I think if you really care about your son, you should fight for custody, even if you dont have the money to look after him. That way, you can get special circumstances, and court orders that say when and how you ex can spend time with your son. Even if you dont take custody of william, still get legal advice. Do you have a local community hall that you could enquire at ?? Get some legal advice.. weigh up your options.. there are ways of being able to see your son, without this woman ruining your life. You dont need people like that pulling you down. Sort out what you want from the situation & find strength within your self to stay strong to your boundries. don't give into her or dont let her think that she has control. And just say to her that she cant go bringing weed to your mothers house & that she needs to respect your family .. & if she doesnt you follow what you say .. involve the police & the law. let it get messy that way. Just think about what is best for your son. Don't let him grow up without a father in his life.