My husband & had tried to have sex. I don't know what went wrong. Usually we get the position right & can do them easily, but the other night we ran out of lube. So he gave me oral like he always does and we kissed & fondled. When tried to have sex everything didn't go in as easily as usual & hurt so much. I had to tell my husband to stop. It's was uncomfortable. Were newlyweds 8 months. We didn't have lots of sex while dating due to religious beliefs. So we're still kinda of new. I don't have a clue what went wrong. My husband seemed so disappointed that night. All the positions we normally tried were uncomfortable. This is especially disappointing because we had sex 2 days before this & love making was amazing. I was hoping it feel that same way & it's didn't so I got a sad. This is the first time it's went like that yesterday. My husband hasn't initiated sex yet chose to cuddle after this. I'm worried about our next love making session and it hasn't even happened yet. I don't want it to go bad again. couldn't make him ***. Please help?
Patricia2015-07-12T15:59:58Z
Hi... our bodies are not always going to respond the same way every time we have sex. Fist thing you could consider is to set your anxiety and frustration aside as much as you can.
You can always use a lubricant, but from experience, i have switched from the store-bought varieties to using coconut oil, or some sort of natural oil (grapeseed, olive oil). Why? Because they don't get sticky like store bought lubricants. It's worth a try.
Your body also goes through a cycle every month and our hormone levels fluctuate because we are women, we have periods, and levels of sex hormones do change a bit from time to time. So this might be a factor.... it's hard to tell.
Next time you're planning to have sex, perhaps have a natural oil ready in case you need it. And i also suggest a good bit of foreplay before actual intercourse. The more you are sexually aroused, the better. Your body ought to respond to the closeness and foreplay with your husband naturally.
Sex starts in the brain -- and so if the two of you try to have intercourse right off the bat, you may not be lubricated enough or turned on enough.
I hope this helps in some ways.
If the issue continues, maybe consult your gynecologist, but give things a bit of time first.
Relax, many people have problems. It sounds to me that you need more or better lube. In addition try extending foreplay. Lovemaking is an art, not a race. If he was using a latex condom, try a different type. People can develop allergies at any time to anything.. Try using dildos, and have him get you off first. If he can't get off, he'll come back. As long as he knows you're interested, he won't lose interest. If you must, stick with 69 for a while.
Over use of lubrication can cause you to dry out at times. There are certain water based types that cause inflimation and dryness. Your vagina naturally lubricates itself when aroused. Causes of vaginal dryness range from physiological factors, such as hormonal changes or medication side effects, to emotional and psychological issues, such as lack of desire or even anxiety. Fortunately there are nearly as many options for dry vagina relief as there are causes. Some women are allergic to chemicals in soaps, hygiene products, dyes, and perfumes. Many women have allergies to detergents and soaps. There can be irritants on things like underwear or towels. Other allergens can actually include lubricants and objects that may be placed in the vagina. But the best kind is the natural kind making sure you are ready before intercourse. Also other things can cause dryness like if you were near a fan or air conditioning. You don't have to wait for him to come to you for sex you could go to him. Change it up a little I'm sure that's exciting
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