Do gay stereotypes annoy anyone else?

Hi, just to introduce myself I am gay and have been out for little over a year now.

Lately however, the constant stereotyping of fabulous, camp, feminine etc. has literally been driving me insane. All of a sudden just because I have expressed my sexuality, all these labels get slapped on me, and I haven't changed?!

There's also the additional, oh, you didn't watch Eurovision, therefore you're not a proper homosexual etc.

I mean, personally I would see myself as, well me. I'm not going to try and change to become something I'm not, to wear the correct clothes for gay people, perform the correct actions. What most people don't understand is that saying these things as also homophobic, and believe they are right in almost criticizing me for not doing these things.

Maybe I'm overreacting... XD Haha please tell me what you people think.

Joseph2016-06-01T08:20:26Z

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I didn't watch eurovision either. Oh noes!!

Just ignore the people who perpetuate stereotypes. If they try to tease you, tell them to f*ck off.

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RP2016-06-01T08:22:23Z

IMHO, the problem is people do not understand that stereotypes are guides, not rules. There may be common characteristics for any specified group, but there are always many exceptions. I'm constantly fascinated by how many straight people exhibit what are regarded as gay traits and the opposite (gays show straight traits). One needs to use her/his head and not be lulled into thinking a stereotype defines everyone in the particular group to which it is applied.

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Dip! Just Dip!2016-06-01T08:44:36Z

They don't annoy me when they are subtle and not "in your face". I can be "camp" at appropriate moments, and I like a good show tune like many other gay men do. I pride myself on having seen 75% of the new musicals last season ("Hamilton" yet to come....) on Broadway, and I pride myself as a fan of Judy, Bette (both Davis and Midler), and Cher. But I was never a fan of Jack on "Will and Grace", and found "Queer as Folk" both stereotypical and unrealistic. Yet, I can quote "Golden Girls" and "Designing Women" word for word, including Julia's famous "The Night the Lights Went Out in Georgia" routine.

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ThatFedoraDude2016-06-01T09:17:53Z

They march down the streets in rainbow thongs, glittery floats, wearing more makeup then emo people...

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bennett2016-06-01T08:23:28Z

When you look at them make a racist comment to drive a point.

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