Ladies, is she keeping tabs on me, wouldnt you unfollow a guy you turned down?

So I was talking to this girl this past month on Snapchat, and texting. We finally met up last Saturday at her place. That saturday night was the first time we met in person. We were just watching movies and we talked. I don't know what it was but we just vibed with each other. Her room was just lit with candles too so it was a chill setting also. Shortly after, it just happened between us having sex. so we went two rounds, and she was saying things like, "your so big (my name)", dropped the f word many times, right there, etc. the first round she was cuffing up with me real tight kissing on my shoulder and neck right after. Shorty after she got on top of me saying she wanted it again, being really seductive with me so that's what led to the second round. We cuddled some more and kissed for a bit and that was it. After that I had to go, but I was just messing with saying, "you don't want me to leave huh?" And she shook her head with a smile saying no pretty much. It's obvious we feel each other, but here's the dilemma. She's going thru so much at home with her parents and she had broken up with her ex a month prior talking to me. They have no contact what so ever but he did her so wrong in so many ways
dissapears. She told me it's complicated to talk to her. so we texted the night after we had sex cause she asked me what I'm looking for in a girl that night we had sex. I couldn't answer it so I answered for her and told her I wanted her.

2016-10-31T09:46:22Z

She said this, She said this , "(My name), this message just broke my heart. 😔 This was honestly the sweetest thing that I have ever read, and I want to be that girl for you so badly - I'm just not in a good place right now. You did absolutely nothing wrong; you're perfect" I just felt like I rushed things but apparently I did not, but I'm really feeling her and don't want to leave her, I wanted to stick it out.

2016-10-31T09:46:52Z

So I told her how I felt about her foreal. And last weekend she told me she would text me after but never did. on monday she snapped me saying (my name), I need to breathe. I'm sorry. I'll text you later. Now I feel terrible inside l, like it's over now. I wasn't harrassing her or anything I just asked if we could talk that's it. Idk man **** sucks 😞But the thing is she still follows me on snapchat?

2016-10-31T09:47:08Z

She sees my stories and I see hers, but i don't want to overdue it by messaging her. I mean idk, its weird to me cause she said she likes me being around and talking to me but were not compatible at all. But in the beginning she's telling oh i want to see you real badly, we had sex and she didn't me to leave her house afterwords, she says perfect, and wants to be my dream girl but can't cause she's got a lot of stuff going on.

2016-10-31T09:47:23Z

So im curious as to why she still has me on snapchat and stuff, yet she turns me down. Will I ever speak to her again?

2016-11-01T18:31:58Z

last time I talked to her was last Monday, should I contact her at all?

paremy2016-10-31T11:14:04Z

Well first of all I think it was very wrong for the both you to rush into things. She just broke up with her bf not long ago. So it should be code red right there that your just a rebound because she wanted to feel wanted. When she got what she wanted she made up excuses why she couldn't see you. Sex on the first date is very wrong it makes things awkward and leaves people with excuses.
Like I would just say to give her time but honestly it's not about time or space. If she wants to be a big girl and date and be sexual then she should have you on the in instead of messing with your feelings. A relationship is about 2 people not one and if she was having problems maybe she should have talked them out with you it could of helped her. And if all her problems are based on her ex then she has very serious issues and in no way should she had made a pass on you. And she probably still sees your stories because if she is feeling the way she was before or needs some consolation she will text you. But no problems are big enough for her to be telling you she can't handle this right now. That is childish crap not trying to be rude. But I'm having lots of problems now and that is no excuse for me to shun others out of my life. Either she wants you good not just for sex or she don't at all and if she cannot make up her mind then you shouldn't even stick around..

o xox2016-11-01T09:58:27Z

I answered your question like you asked me to, so you should pick me as best answer since I went out of my way and did like you asked ;)


But a lot of us girls do talk to guys and meet them just to have male attention.... If she's keeping tabs on you, she prObably does like you, but she's being shy. She must want you to make a move and show that you're interested in her.. Let me give you a little advice about us girls.. We have plenty of men applying for the same position as you.. What makes YOU different from other guys? As long as she's keeping tabs on you, tagging you in things.. She probably does like you

sharmista2016-11-01T03:53:45Z

Hmmm. I've done this before but the guy was really a great guy I just did not have an attraction to him more than a friend. Plus he has a kid and I just can't put myself in a situation to date someone with kids considering I have none and don't have time for baby mama drama. If he wants we could still talk but she may not be attracted to you in that way

lucy2016-11-01T00:33:25Z

It sounds like she's just after a rebound and you were there. I know it's really confusing for you, but I'd give it a bit of time for her to sort herself out and decide what she wants. She sounds like she has just found herself in a bit of a down period and she needs to get back up, and if she decides she wants to be with you then great!
However for the time being I would suggest not to invest all of your eggs in one basket and maybe see other people until she is in the right place to make up her mind :)

Tyler2016-11-01T20:07:03Z

It sounds to me like you were a rebound, but she's still going through some stuff. But if she's keeping tabs on you maybe she sees something in you. Just let her know you're there for her if you're interested and leave it at that.

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