I am married and have a stable relationship with my wife, but physical attraction is not ideal?
Even though we are on the same wave emotionally & intellectually, I still find myself not being strongly physically attracted to her and think that my needs are not entirely met because when I touch her in certain places, she says "it tickles" and turns away or tells me to stop touching these pars of her body. This makes me feel uneasy. So thought about meeting other women through one night stands, etc... with whom I can get only these needs met, and still continue my usual marital relationship with my wife who will fulfill all my other needs as usual. Is this a reasonable plan?
Anonymous2017-08-22T16:54:52Z
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You sound like the typical guy that's selfish to the core only thinking of your needs rather than trying to sort out the dilemma you have with your wife. Everyone has certain parts of their body that they just loath other people touching outright but that doesn't necessarily mean one should start looking externally to meet a certain need until you've exhausted all avenues to self the dilemma. So, stop crying yourself a river and man up by working together with your wife to get back on track sexual as it's not just happened over night, yet you've thrown the towek in already you plonker.
Look here is the fact, there is no point staying with someone you dont want to have sex with anymore. Once that has gone, it does not come back, you can spend a fortune trying to fix it, or just as much and have a divorce and put it down to experience. The choice is yours, but who wants to live a life they are not fully enjoying?
Only with your wife's approval. By engaging in sex outside the relationship, particularly casual sex with multiple partners, you place her at risk of contracting a disease or infection as well, and she deserves a say. Also keep in mind that if you want sex outside the relationship, she should also have that right if she wishes. If she isn't okay with that, and you aren't willing to stay in a monogamous relationship with her, then divorce her.
As an extremely ticklish person myself, TALK to your wife and modify your behaviors. Ask her how you can touch differently and where she'd like to be touched. Being tickled in the midst of intimacy is a serious mood-killer. Firmer touching may be helpful, as well as avoiding the worst trigger zones. Unfortunately, my boyfriend thinks it's funny to tickle me in bed. It's not funny, it's a serious mood killer that's likely to end the current sex session, and it may be a relationship ender for me if he can't take it seriously and adapt, despite an otherwise great relationship. Other relationships it has not been a big deal, they just adjusted their way of touching me.