When will i get better and over my breakup ?

Im a 28 year old man who dated a woman i work with. I was extremely attracted to her and i chased her for a long time ( a year and a half) and then she out of no where felt feelings for me. She brought me home and i fell in love with her and her family. I just loved the family setting because all my family is deceased. She always told me that she wasnt attracted to me but she loved my personality and after we dated for 2 years she dumped me out of no where. We havnt spoken in almost a month and i had to take a leave of absence from work. Im a law enforcment officer and i couldnt keep my composure at work which was not safe. I feel like im taking this breakup very bad and im worried that its not normal. Almost everyday i cry or want to. I kinda always thought we would have to end because she doesnt want kids or marriage and i do.. but i guess i was always hoping she change her mind. When will I get better ?

AuntKatie2017-10-08T02:33:39Z

It will take some work and some time. You will always remember her, but you can move on. You probably need to make some changes in your life. Develop new hobbies and interests. Get involved in new things. Keep busy. Join a new group or class such as painting, music, photography, a sport, whatever makes sense for you and in your area. Maybe even find somewhere to volunteer. You will be helping others, which will help you stop focusing on things in your own life and develop a stronger sense of who you are. It will boost your self esteem and self confidence - both of which are probably suffering now. Gradually you will see how you need to move forward from this situation and get a new lease on life. You will probably even make some new friends who can help you have a new perspective. Take what was good from this experience and learn from it, and move on. Don't cry because it’s over, smile because it happened. (Doctor Seuss)