So I have a boyfriend of 4 years . He’s my first . And I’m in college and he isn’t and I think I’m starting to like this boy in my school and I wouldn’t want anything serious with him I think it’s just sexual feelings and I can’t stop thinking about all the things I could be experiencing if I were single . I mean my boyfriend makes me happy and all and I know I would have a great future with him but I can’t shake these feelings
Hope!
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What you do, is up to you.. but you are wrong in one regard - you CAN shake those feelings. What we think every waking moment is a CHOICE. What thoughts you indulge, what you focus on, is a DECISION that you make. For example, married people DO have sexual thoughts of others - we all do (I really believe this), however, when you truly love someone, you shut those thoughts down, you don't listen to them, you change your focus back onto your spouse before any harm is done - this is because you want your marriage to last, and you realize with maturity, that sexual fantasies are nothing like reality.. in a fantasy, you imagine everything being lovely and perfect, but in reality, this other guy could be horrible, and then you've made a big mistake, haven't you..
So, my advice - see who you want - you are not married.. but be fair to your boyfriend. If you are no longer interested in him, dump him, first before seeing someone else. Imagine your life without him.. and if you think that he is still the one for you, then STOP indulging thoughts of other men - be careful what you think about - thoughts always try to find a way to manifest in the physical world - what we think becomes an action.. if you think long enough about this other guy, you will most likely end up with him.. if that is what you want, fine.. but think carefully - don't let lust/passion cause you to make a hasty decision that you will regret.